What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Chicago, Illinois, United Sates
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Waiter
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? None
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? Two years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was tall, white, and had dark hair. He had been in my high school class since freshmen year, but we had never hooked up or dated. We met in high school. I had always liked him before the hook up, but never made any moves.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hookup was in our senior year, at a senior party near the end of the year. We had all been partying and even drinking a little because someone had brought some beer. I was sitting by myself toward the end of the party, and he came over to me. We talked for a little while, and I confessed that I had liked him for a while (We had been drinking a little). Then he kissed me for no reason, and said we could go somewhere now if he wanted. I agreed, so we went outside (it was near summer) and went into the trees.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we were hidden in the forest, and the person’s house was out of sight, we started kissing again. We sat on the ground, and then I think we both started taking each other’s clothes off. We didn’t really think about it, we just agreed to have sex. I went on top of him and fucked him for a while, and we both felt pleasure from it. Then he went on top of me. I felt sort of awkward because I had only done it once before, and we were classmates. We didn’t really talk. He was kind throughout. It ended when we hear cars driving away, and figured the party was over.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I didn’t really interact much with him at school for the rest of the year, but I was fine with it the next day. After high school, I didn’t think much about it. I don’t still feel sexual desires towards him in my mind.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, To cheer myself up, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told no one.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I feel like it didn’t have enough emotional connection.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I had like him a while.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It was brief, unemotional.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I think now I wouldn’t do that anymore, I don’t quite have the same mindset.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it’s fine, as long as it’s consensual.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s great.
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