What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
I have construction workers coming tomorrow morning
How long ago did this hookup happen? Last night
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We will call the guy James. James was 6-1 and was a pretty muscular guy. His body looked like it was sculpted, I honestly didn’t see one flaw on his body. He had blonde thick hair that was shorter than ear length. I didn’t know James at all, we had matched on tinder, but other than that I didn’t know him and had never met him. I wasn’t 100% sure if I would hook up with him because his pictures were not great, so I wasn’t sure I’d be interested.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He had messaged me a week before and asked me to come over and watch netflix with him, but I had said no because I wasn’t sure I was interested. The night I hooked up with James the guy that I had been hooking up with on a fairly regular basis had messaged me and said he was starting to see someone, and that we wouldn’t hook up anymore. I was looking to replace him so I figured I’d turn to Tinder. I sent James a message, and he answered back right away and asked if I was up. We ended up exchanging numbers and we decided we’d meet half way between my place and his, and we’d walk back to his place.
So we met up, and started walking back to his place. One thing I found a little strange is that he wasn’t walking side by side with me he was trailing a little bit ahead. This may have been because I was significantly shorter than him and he wasn’t wearing heels. When we finally got to his place we went straight to his room.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we got to his room he turned his TV on and asked what I wanted to watch, he named off a few things but we settled on Family Guy. A few minutes in he asked if I would give him a back massage, I told him I didn’t know how good I’d be at it but I’d give it a go. I massaged his back for about five minutes while watching watching Family Guy.
After that we started hooking up, I started making out with him but he went straight to undressing me while we were lid in bed. As soon as he undressed me he put my hand on his dick. I started rubbing it over his pants, that lasted probably 30 seconds until he striped down too. I started giving him a hand job while making out with him and he moved my head down to give him a blowjob. I sucked his dick for a bit then went back to making out with him.
He rolled me over and went to get on top of me, I stopped him and asked him if he had a condom. He went and got one. He was on top of me the full time. I should mention that his dick was really big, one of the bigger ones I’ve seen. We started out in missionary, and I immediately found it kinda painful. He rolled me over and we fucked doggy style for a bit and they again in missionary with my legs up by his head. I didn’t get off because the full time I was just waiting for it to be over. He was pounding my cervix and that’s not how I like it. I told him to slow it down a bit at one point but he kept going at the same force just slower.
I am also a fan of intimacy during sex, which can be hit or miss with a one night stand but there was no intimacy at all during this hook up. He didn’t kiss me once during sex, and there was no foreplay at all for me. Over all I could tell he was experienced but it just seemed like he was really rehearsed and it wasn’t natural.
Right after he finished he went to the bathroom and showered, he didn’t tell me where he was going he just left. When he came back he half got in bed but was on his phone. After a while he said that he had construction workers coming in the morning and that I didn’t need to leave right now, but I should probably leave soon. I got up and got dressed and said goodbye.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I walked home, and got in bed but I didn’t sleep very well. It caught me very off guard that he would ask me to leave and walk home at 4am. I had brought money for a cab early the next morning, and I was figuring I’d leave around 8 or 9 the next morning. I really hoped to replace my previous fuck buddy with this guy, but I don’t see that happening now.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Intoxication
How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told a few of my friends and they all agreed it wasn’t my finest hour. They also agreed that what he did was an asshole move, but I also think that it comes with the territory sometimes.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I only regret it because it there was no intimacy and he ended up being a bit of a jerk.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I hadn’t gotten laid in 3 weeks, so I was looking to hook up with someone.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That he asked me to leave at 4am, and I had to walk home in the cold and dark.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Probably not, this is one of two bad experiences I have had but I have had more good experiences.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We didn’t talk about STIs or birth control but I am on the patch and I wouldn’t have had sex with out a condom.
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