Cougar

by Susan McKenna

Location: Raleigh, NC
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Commercial Real Estate
Religious affiliation: Protestant
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? No
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Cougar

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Young African American male, extremely handsome, met him in a club the night before we hooked up. I thought he was very handsome although I thought he may be too young for me.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met in a club the night before we actually hooked up and I saw him standing on the other side of my friend that I was with at the club. I told him I thought he was “Yummy”. Of course we immediately struck up a conversation, in which he asked for my number. He wanted to hookup that night but I was with my friend and thought it might be a little difficult because I was in from out of town and was staying at her house. I told him I would call him the next day. I texted him the next day in the mid-afternoon and told him that we were going to a particular club and he could meet me there. He said that he would text me later. He came and picked me up at the club at 12:30 at night and we went back to house.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We immediately walked into the house/bedroom and started having sex. I sat down on the bed and started sucking his dick. We both gave each other oral and the sex was extremely intense. It went from being highly passionate to soft and emotional. There was a very strong connection or chemistry between us. We both had orgasms and he wanted me to spend the night but I didn’t. I texted my friend and told her to pick me up on the way home. He was a great lover and the sex was great. We talked about his work, his roommate. It ended with him saying if I was ever back in town to hit him up. I eventually did ask his age and he was 20 years younger than me.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used a condom, we did not discuss pregnancy or STIs.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I basically just wanted to have sex with him because I was very attracted to him.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Alcohol, 3 drinks

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We texted the next couple of days back and forth. I enjoyed it immensely. The only down side was that there was a part of me that wanted to continue to be in contact even though we weren’t from the same town and I felt a little sad when a couple days after we had sex I sent him a text and he never responded so I’ve never contacted him again or heard from him. I would totally hook up with him again.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to my friend and her boyfriend. They were laughing at me because he was so much younger.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes it was.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No, I do not regret it at all.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It was a very memorable night.

That I might not ever see him again and I thought we really had nice chemistry.

No, it has not changed the way I think about casual sex.

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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