by john johnson
What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 70
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? retired
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? I like sex. I prefer attractive HWP educated women but will have a man if that is what is available.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 43
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? one
How long ago did this hookup happen? 24hrs
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Ad answered for a sex partner/one-night stand/online
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a white man, about my height. with gray hair. I never met him before and probably won’t again. He came to my apartment since it was a holiday the staff was not on duty so it was not observed by anyone.
I had placed and ad in the local “hookup” site. Actually placed several ads in different categories. He was interested and with a few emails I gave him my address. That is called “hosting”. I prefer to host. I was hopeful. As one ages one becomes less desirable as a sexual person. I had been turned down before. We all have our standards. I won’t be with a black man or woman for instance.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It began with my placing an ad. I wish I had done so earlier. I live in a place that is not sex positive. When he answered my ad we exchanged emails. I invited him over. We both knew exactly what we wanted. Sex, no strings. NSA is very important. Most of the men do not want anything more than sex. If the sex is good then perhaps a repeat.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When he arrived he wanted to see porn. Heterosexual porn with women who had large breasts. I mentioned that the Japanese erotica had women with outsized breasts. He wanted live action porn. I found that easily online. When I turned around He had his pants off and a hard on. He has a cut (circumcised) cock. I prefer that. I started oral and some body play. I don’t kiss men. When he tried I just moved my head to suck his nipples. I asked if he wanted to go in the bedroom. He did. Turns out he wanted to fuck. I am a vers(versatile) and can be a top or a Bttm(bottom). I like to be anally fucked. I really prefer it. Most men who advertise want only oral. I am not a fan of oral myself. It is rare for me to orgasm through oral. I after a while can come. I need to really get into it and fuck their mouth hard. So, I prefer to be fucked. I start to get the start of feeling pleasure None have lasted long enough to bring me to any climax.
I did get what I wanted but he want to be gone as he got what he wanted. I said I was a good fuck and might be back. I told him evenings and weekends when the apt staff is not around. I need to be discrete as I want a woman as FWB/booty call. I don’t need any negative talk. This for many is a secret side.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He left right away. I would not mind seeing him again. I would like a steady sex person. He was open to having a woman between us. He mentioned the issue with women is many want more than being sex friends. Which is what he wants. I too am a introvert, loner. Since I am retire on pension I do not have a lot of money to spend on women. Nor am I interested in dating. I actually hate dating heterosexual style as I am looking for female a sex friend with whom I can play and converse with. Many women take everything to mean that there is more. If they become friends yes there will be more I love my friends. I am not monogamous however. I really am uncomfortable in “family situations”.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? This report. I have no others that I can talk to about my sexuality.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I got laid. And if was pleasant to be desired. There is an emotional rush when you feel the lust. You are wanted. in a cold world at least there is some warmth that I also want, in the way I want it! As I had broken up with what I though was a female friend over politics two weeks before. She called to apologize and told me her interest was the I like her son was into Anime which she is not. She was thinking I could be a friend for her 30 something son! Of course she never before indicated her agenda. I have mixed emotions about that.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I did not orgasm and he came too fast. Perhaps a younger sex partner who can come more than once.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I knew this about myself. I was seduced by my professor and with him had oral sex. that was a bit difficult to handle as I was living with my parents. I did tell my mother and she was frighted that if my father knew he would kill the professor. I went back to my college abode and had multiple heterosexual experiences. I did not think about men until my health failed and the FWB that I had been with for decades had a boyfriend. The I wanted to be wanted and have fun sex. Not commitment sex. I do not want to be manipulated again. Or waste time seducing. I want affection demonstrated and sex and not drama. Most women I meet are not ready to be direct. They have to have a facade of “love” or relationship when they desire the same thing. That is why many hetero normal males seek sex with other males. Today I’ll look at ads. This has given me more desire to find a sex positive group.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I enjoyed being desired. I want more encounters like that and would not mind attending an orgy either.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I would like more people to enjoy casual sex as well as friend sex where honest lust can come to the fore. I would love to be reincarnated where it is acceptable to just ask for sex directly. I wish in a way I had been born in a time when all the negatives around sex were conquered. It would be a very different world if women (and men)never needed to worry about pregnancy or public disapproval.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It helps to have our stories told in time perhaps more people will openly embrace the sex positive ideal. I believe many people of both sexes who are “loners” would benefit sexually and emotionally. One feels better about themselves when they feel desired.
At least many won’t feel so alone and abandoned.
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