The Day I Turned Gay



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? India
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Assistant Manager – Insurance Operations
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Unsure / Questioning
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

The day I turned gay

How long ago did this hookup happen? A month ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was 28 and he looked maybe not very attractive but certainly not unattractive. I had just met him. We connected through Grindr. Well I was nervous.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He pinged me on grindr asking what am I into. I said just a hook up. He was okay with it and then he came to my place.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? As soon as he came and knocked the door. I was alone in my place and went and opened the door welcomed him in and then we started to undress in the hall. We undressed each other and I could see his cock hard. Then he hugged me tight and that was the first time anyone ever hugged me like that and I got an hard-on and then he twisted my nipples and then turned me around and slapped my butt. Then he gave me a rimjob. Wore a condom and then fucked me. We didnt talk about anything. We changed quiet a few positions and then he came.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It felt good and no guilt or something like that attached. We parted ways after that night and never met again. I still feel good about it as it was my first.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, I was feeling lonely, Submission / Relinquishing power, Boredom

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I spoke about it to no one.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Other

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? This was my first and it felt good.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? My anus was paining for 2 days after that.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think sex in itself is a great thing that has happened to mankind and every other living being out there everybody has but the same thing has become a taboo with the logic less social structures and the criticisms that one would face after sex. Casual sex with consent by both the parties is a great thing since it doesnt come with a baggage of emotions. I think that casual sex with a third party inside a commited relationship as a bad thing. Other than that it’s harmless. Moreover it depends upon how well we feel after having it.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great begginnings to a great future.

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