Didn’t Think You Were Coming

by Jen

Gender: Female
Age: 21
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: Washington, DC
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
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Didn’t Think You Were Coming

How long ago did this hookup happen? Halloween 2013

How would you best classify this hookup? One night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a 5’9″ Irish man in a Dublin club on Halloween. Blonde, blue eyes, a little stocky but with a nice bum, dressed like a ghost in white face paint, white t-shirt and blue jeans.

I didn’t know him, didn’t really get his name, I had nothing to judge him on but how he looked at me.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was at a club with a friend in Dublin and I saw a guy start wiggling his eyebrows at me when he walked past me, really drunk, but kind of charming and adorable. Didn’t see him again for a while, until he came back and kept wiggling his eyebrows, and it made me laugh. He grabbed me and kissed me. He asked me to go back to his and I told him to wait, so I could tell my friend I was leaving.
He didn’t think I was coming back and was surprised when I did. He paid for a 30 Euro cab back to his house. I couldn’t understand him because his accent was so thick and he was so drunk.
At his place we got naked and started exploring each other a bit until he tried to get on a condom, he tried to fuck me for a while but he couldn’t stay hard, so we went to sleep instead.
In the morning we tried again, but instead I ended up blowing him until he came. He let me use his shower after which was nice.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I gave him a BJ in the morning, but the night before was just missionary and doggy style. It wasn’t very pleasurable, but his company was nice. He was a really nice guy, if not a little drunk.

He tried to apologize for not being able to stay hard, but I think it was a combo of the alcohol and him being nervous.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? He wore a condom. Didn’t talk about any history and I was off birth control at the time.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was in Dublin for the weekend, I hadn’t had sex in months and I wanted to fuck an Irishman.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? He was wasted on I don’t know what, and I was sober.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After he came on me, he let me use his shower to clean up. He helped me find the bus I needed to go home and walked me to the stop. He was a gentleman and I never saw him again.
I hope he’s not getting that drunk anymore, because dear lord the sex was sub-par.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friend I was staying with and my housemates back in Madrid. They all congratulated me on breaking my dry-spell. They knew I had been closed off for a while from my usual rhythm and wanted me to go have a good time.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Entirely consensual and wanted. He definitely wanted it and only asked me to leave when he had to go.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all. I mostly got what I wanted out of it, and so did he. I only regret not asking him to stop drinking earlier in the night.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best: He was a delightful Irishman and a gentleman to boot.

Worst: He couldn’t stay hard, and all I wanted was a good orgasm.

I had a really tough break up earlier that year from a LTR and I lost a friend to cancer. I felt badly for myself at the time. It was re-affirmed that I am an attractive woman that can have sex when she wants to. Someone I didn’t know respected me and tried to make me feel good. It gave me more confidence to be who I was before all the bad things happened. I love sex and this has only made me happier that I am able to go out and have it.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? If you can’t stay hard, at least try to give a girl some oral-love.

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