Current location: Denmark
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Spiritual atheist
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Maybe queer
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 33
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 weeks ago
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-day-stand
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was in Marseille for one day and got chatted up by a guy when buying a ticket at the train station. He seemed somewhat ageless, turned out to be in his 40s, arab, he looked ok, had a bit of a belly but a pretty nice face and funny enough, he seemed sympathetic and a bit dodgy at the same time. He invited me for a coffee and I think I agreed because he was so persuasive but at the same time very friendly.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had a coffee and somehow connected, it was very easy to be around him. I had a couple of hours left in the city and wanted to spend it in a nice way, have dinner, go to the seaside and have a walk in the Panier. We agreed to have dinner together and decided to buy some paella with seafood. He was a dance teacher and we danced for a moment in the street; he was coming on to me a lot and I found it a bit awkward, but he was a good dancer and I enjoyed it also.
We ended up going to the docks in front of a big museum and have dinner there. I wasn’t attracted to the guy, but then things happened. I’ve never been in Marseille before but once we came to the docks I realized I’d dreamt about the place before – and I’ve never seen a single picture of that city. He sang to me in Arabic and it was all intoxicating to me. It seemed like we’d entered a timeless place. I wanted to swim and changed into my bikini, and we both got into that turquoise Mediterranean water with the sizzling salt. After the swim we smoked a cigarette. I was really enjoying it but was somehow anxious as well as he was getting physically closer.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He rubbed my back and wanted to kiss me. I was feeling really insecure and was taking my time, asking him to help me and comfort me. I was exeptionally sensitive that day. He was kind. Then something changed, I got turned on and started kissing him really hot. He got surprised! We both got extremely turned on and he started caressing my pussy. It was a public place, there was plenty of other people also sitting by the docks, the closest were 5-10 meters from us. But we were making out like crazy and he fingerfucked me. I nearly came. I tried to return the favor by massaging his dick with my foot, but I couldn’t do it discretely so I gave it up. Still he happily pointed out a stain of cum on his underpants.
We decided to fuck so we left the place. He had a friend close by (I even got to visit Le Panier on the way, just like I’d hoped). We went to the friend’s apartment, another arab in his 40s. For a moment I was scared that they’d both fuck me coz they were speaking Arabic to each other, but then the friend left and we undressed. We had (vaginal) sex doggy-style but he came very quickly. I said it was OK and tried to get off laying on top off him and rubbing my clit against him, but it didn’t really work. He was quite nervous and couldn’t get it up again and I was too nervous to orgasm. I’d expected a proper fuck but it was ok. The friend came back and we left, I had to catch my bus.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? He came twice, I didn’t.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We talked about using a condom but didn’t although his friend had kindly left us some. I asked him if he had any diseases and he said he didn’t. I’m not on the pill but he didn’t come inside me.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I think I was seduced by the city and by the moment and by him.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Nada, just cigarettes.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We walked to the train station and joked about the efficient day we’d had. I wasn’t sexually satisfied but I wasn’t disappointed either. We had a good connection but I started to get a bit bored of him and wanted to catch my bus. He gave me his number and I think he may even have said that he loved me, at least he was very affectionate. I was in a way too but at the same time I regarded it very much as a one-time-only encounter. I don’t even live in France.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told some fellow students recently. They don’t know me very well and they were a bit surprised. I really like to talk about sex and have a kind of sensational way of telling stories. The people I told haven’t had many or any casual sex partners, but I think they found the story entertaining and a bit scandalous.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Not really to start out with, but it’s definitely not like I was forced into it. But no, it wasn’t something I wanted from the beginning, and my body was reacting against it until it suddenly changed.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No, unless I found out at some point that I’d caught an STI.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The settings were nice and it was an adventure, but I’ve had better sex and better adventures with other people that I’ve found more interesting and more attractive. I think casual sex is wonderful and it can also be emotionally fulfilling, but this particular experience made me think that I sometimes rely a bit too much on my libido and allow myself to get seduced very easily, and that I could pick my partners more on my own initiative.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
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