Downtown Bars Are Trouble

by Clove

Gender: female
Age: 24
Race/ethnicity: White
Current location: Mountains
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Barista
Relationship status: Committed
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Lesbian
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? I’m a bottom switch and I like to get with top switches. I like women that are powerful.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Downtown Bars Are Trouble

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She’s so beautiful. Not butch, not femme. Taller than me- I have to get on my tip toes to kiss her. Dark skin, shorter straight black hair. The most stunning green eyes. Soft, beautiful lips. I can’t forget her lips.
I know her well enough. We’d had group sex together a couple of times before with my girlfriend. My girlfriend and I dated her for a bit, and my girlfriend had dated her alone in the past, which is part of the reason why the trio dissolved. I, however, have been infatuated with her since the moment I saw her years ago in a class we had together. She was so smart, had powerful things to say. She once got drunk and tried to kiss me (while she had a girl of her own at home waiting for her) and told me that I was smart and beautiful- and in that order.
Long story short, she was something I wanted badly for myself, but knew I could never have. I wasn’t allowed to fuck her by myself.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We both love to dance, but not like that fun free sort of dancing, I mean like ON each other dancing. We met up downtown with some of her friends and played some pool. She smiled and said she was happy to see me, that I came out. She asked where my girlfriend was, I told her she decided to stay home. She bought me a drink. We bar hopped. I felt her hands rubbing up and down my thighs and inside my legs under the table. That’s half the fun, you can’t let any one else at the table know whats going on. We moved to the only bar in town that feels like a club. It’s dark and sort of anonymous.  We danced, we moved together. Her hips, oh god, she could make me come just by rubbing her hips into mine. My girlfriend doesn’t move like that, she doesn’t get it. We were both so wet. People were definitely staring, and our friends were bashful at the sight of us, but we didn’t stop. She pushed me up against the wall and kissed me, and I had to get on my tip toes to meet her. She had ice in her mouth and kissed it into mine. It was torture, for both of us.
Finally, we decide to leave this bar and go to another more casual one with our friends. We drank more and played foosball, which she apparently rocks and and I now know I am not as good at. It was almost time for the bar to close, and I asked her to come to the bathroom with me. I just wanted her to feel how wet she made me. We weren’t really allowed to do more than that. She laughed and asked if that was all she was getting? Without talking about it, we had been leading up to fucking all night. But she knew the rules, my girlfriend and I only do group stuff. I laughed and said if she could keep a secret so could I.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Without answering she grabbed my hand and led me to the bathrooms in the bar. We went into the stall together and she closed the door and pushed me up against the wall and started kissing me. I started to push my shorts down and she pressed her hand inside my underwear. I was of course wearing these cute stripey underwear because I was HOPING she’d get into my pants, so that worked out well. I was so wet from being teased all night, its my favorite. Her mouth was on my neck so I could feel the air leave her when she felt how wet I was. I propped my foot up on the toilet so she could get a better angle and she alternated between rubbing my clit and fingering me. It felt so fucking good I was not able to be quiet at all, so women were coming in and out of the bathroom as the bar was doing last call and they could all hear us. I didn’t care, this was what I wanted so badly and I was finally getting it. I pulled up my shirt and my bra so she could get to my tits too, and she was happy for the access. She was fucking me so well, I felt like a goddess as much as you could in a bathroom in a bar. hah! She was so hungry for me, she wanted me so badly. My current relationship has been lacking these things, so I was on cloud 9 with this girl getting such satisfaction out of touching me. Finally she let me get into her pants and I was breathless to find how fucking good her pussy felt. Just sliding my hand down her slit almost made her come. I got her off a couple times by rubbing her clit and even though we didn’t want to stop, it was clear it was time for us to go.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? We definitely both came. I wish I could make her come all day long. I wouldn’t even care if I didn’t get paid, I want that to be my fucking job. She’s a phenomenal lover, and I desperately wish I were with her over my girlfriend.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We didn’t exchange any bodily fluids except for saliva. Though when we had group sex in the past we didn’t use protection for oral sex and we shared fluids between the three of us. We’ve all been recently tested.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? We wanted it. We wanted each other. We were wet. Enough reasons?

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Alcohol, yes. Didn’t feel super great in the morning.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We held hands after we fucked, all the way home. I confessed to her how much I cared for her. She told me that she’s been trying to be really respectful of my current relationship, trying to not interfere. My girlfriend has a really low sex drive and mine is off the charts. This girl and I match each other in sexual needs. She said it was bad timing in our lives. She’s moving away to get her PhD and I hope to do the same some day. I told her I hoped that we could be two Dr’s fucking someday. She agreed. My heart felt full.
I asked her to keep fucking me until she moves away to go to school (less than a month), because I’m dying due to the lack of sexual attention from my girlfriend. She said she would, but later changed her mind after fucking me one more time because she felt guilty. My girlfriend is one of her best friends.
She’s monogamous with some girl now, who I’m tragically jealous of.
I feel sad about this person now.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To some friends. They were happy and sad for me. Happy I got what I needed, sad that I was cheating on my girlfriend, sad that I wanted this other girl so badly and couldn’t have her.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Very consensual, very wanted.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No. I needed it so badly. I’m not getting that kind of attention anywhere else.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? How exciting and alive I felt. The worst, how temporary. I want to have her all night long, at the very least.
This hookup made me realize how unfulfilled I am with my current relationship. I work well with polyamory, my girlfriend dislikes it. We’re taking a break from poly right now, which is killing me. This hook up reminded me of how important sex is to me.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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