What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
What’s your current relationship status? Single
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Dynamite – Ended as Soon as It Started
How long ago did this hookup happen? a year ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a short, cute good looking guy of European descent. When I first met him, I thought nothing would happen since he looked “too cool” or “too good looking” for me with his sunglasses on. He was aloof and guarded at first. We had the same age.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was going through a breakup, the night before I went to drop my ex’s things at his house and was heartbroken. So the next day, I decided to go out with a friend of mine who introduced me to other people at a park so I could change my mind. Talked to this one guy D.We were having a lot of drinks and I got drunker and drunker. Hours later, next thing I knew we were making out in the park and he was rubbing me through my jeans. Being drunk, horny and heartbroken I was down for whatever at that time. Also, he was very cute and I was surprised that a guy like him would go for a girl like me (I had low self esteem at the time, I didn’t know how I attractive I was back then).
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Everything happened so fast. Me and other friends went to his apartment. We were making out in the couch and then we quickly went into his room (people were in the leaving room drinking and they pretty much heard everything from outside). He kept the lights off so it was pitch black. I never hooked up outside of a relationship, let alone with a stranger I just met a few hours ago. We took our clothes off, made out and he went in me without a condom on. I was a bit alarmed since it was a one night stand, but then again I was used to having sex without a condom all throughout my relationship with my ex boyfriend. I liked the feeling of it raw, of feeling the other’s wetness slip inside you effortlessly. Also he hadn’t had sex in years , this was his first one night stand too.
He went in me doggystyle and I moaned really loudly (must’ve been because I was very drunk). It was pretty hot like dynamite but it ended quickly too. He was switching positions way too quickly. One second he was doing doggystyle and putting a finger up my ass, the next he was down on me giving oral. I later gave him a blowjob but he was really aggressive and shoved my head down his dick, I felt like I was gonna choke on it. He wanted me to bite his lips while we were kissing and I wasn’t into his aggressive stuff.
I ended it in the middle of it, I started crying out of nowhere remembering my ex, thinking how this one night stand sex was not as good as the sex I used to have. I got up, got dressed. He was confused and angry because he didn’t bust yet, he couldn’t believe I was gonna leave before he bust. But I really didn’t care about him. I walked out, told my friend to stop drinking, we’re leaving.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? D wanted to date me but I had no feelings towards him. Me and a friend hung out with their group of friends a week later at a bar. I didn’t want to go but I went to give back D’s sunglasses. I was kind enough to give them back. Next time we saw each other, he was pressuring me to date him but I didn’t like him that way. I rejected him that night.
The funny thing is, one of his friends Adrian approached me and we started dating (at first, he had no clue that me and his bff fucked). We never had sex because Adrian really wanted to get to know me as a person and wanted a relationship with me. He wanted to take things slow. First time we locked eyes, it felt like a lightning bolt. It was something I couldn’t really explain but we both fell deeply for each other as time went on. Sadly, because of the one night stand with D, things couldn’t fully develop. His group of friends couldn’t believe we were dating and they were constantly reminding Adrian that I slept with D and trying to break us apart.
Adrian and I still do have feelings for each other but sadly it seems like we will never fully be with each other because of his entourage. We never had sex, but the mental and emotional chemistry we had was out of this world and I constantly think about the what if’s till this day.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Intoxication
How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friend knew and his friends knew since they were in the living room and could hear everything.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very
Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat
Why do you regret this hookup? Prevented me from fully developing a relationship with his friend Adrian. We had feelings for each other and the fact that I had this hookup with his best friend complicated things.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Had I not have this hookup, I would have never met Adrian.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The sex wasn’t that good. D was very clingy, would text me and wanted to date me and got angry when I rejected him because I had ZERO feelings for him.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. I learned that if I am not in love with someone, I can’t enjoy sex with them. It also made me very cautious about who to sleep with…You never know one of his friends might be your next boyfriend lol.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
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