What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 40
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Birmingham, UK
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Teacher
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Don’t wish to say
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Eager European woman
How long ago did this hookup happen? 7 year ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met online and exchanged pictures. We were both married and both interested in getting something else. She said that she was satisfied in her marriage, but just wanted to try having someone else. As for me, I had always felt sexually undesired in my marriage, even though we were great friends. Her pictures looked great, and I was aware she was Eastern European, which I liked. We agreed to meet together just for coffee during the day, with the idea that if we clicked, we could then arrange another time to book a hotel room and go further.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met for coffee and got on very well. So well, in fact, that – to my excitement – she insisted we go find a hotel room there and then! We were central, so we walked to a few hotels, but none of them had check-in available, as it was still late morning. To my embarrassment, she even tried to argue with the hotel people, saying, ‘We’ll only be a few hours and then we’ll be out again!’ As we kept walking, she pulled me into an alley and we kissed passionately. Then we came to a hotel that gave us a room…
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? As soon as we got in the room, we were kissing passionately again. Our clothes began coming off, and when she was down to her underwear, I realised that she was even better than in her pictures – she was extremely fit, with not an ounce of fat – an amazing body. She bent over and I kissed and licked her butt cheeks. She took control – which I loved – I wanted so much to feel desired – and lay me down on the bed. She straddled me and put my very hard erection into her arse. I was amazed… If this was what European women were like, I was hooked! She asked, ‘Are you okay with giving me anal?’ I gave an enthusiastic affirmation! After a while she got off and we moved to a different position, with me in her pussy. She had a beautiful orgasm, and fairly quickly afterwards I did too. We lay on the bed and talked and fondled. After kissing a bit, she sucked me and then I licked her to her second orgasm. I then went in her pussy again in missionary, before flipping her over and giving her anal sex until I came inside her arse. Again we lay and touched and kissed for a while. I began fingering her and she began to get very very into it. I could tell she was building to another orgasm, and my eyes widened as in the midst of her groans her pussy gave out a large gush of thick, clear juice. This was extremely hot to me, and quite different to my experience of other squirty women. By now I was hard for the third time, and we again had sex in several positions, including anal and vaginal. After I came for a third time, we had a sensual shower together, checked out of the hotel, and grabbed a bite to eat together. She was wearing no underwear, as it was saturated. I was blown away by the whole experience!
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We both knew it was a one-off thing. And she returned to Italy, where she and her husband were living at that time.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I later had email contact with this woman, and I was so pleased that she said I was an amazing lover, and that I’d pleased her in every way. I never told anyone else – this is the first time I have mentioned it to anyone.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat
Why do you regret this hookup? I was married.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? An amazing sexual experience. I loved her enthusiasm in particular.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing bad about it really
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? An example of how I thrive on feeling desired.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It was an outlet that I kept returning to, but I have since turned away from it for the sake of my marriage.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Very interesting!
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