Encounter in Paris, That Goes a Little Wrong



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 49
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? UK
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? IT
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Heterosexual but I do enjoy playing with the occasional cock
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Encounter in Paris, That Goes a Little Wrong

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met him through Grindr, he was late 50s or early 60s. French and looked very dapper, just my type.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? On an overnight business trip to Paris, I had been out and had a good meal and a few drinks with colleagues. After this I like to have a look on Grindr to see if there is anyone of interest near by.
After 11p.m. I started chatting with someone nearby and headed towards them, but they binned me off, but this more ideal chap started messaging me. He looked good in the photos and sounded perfect for what I wanted by chat, and only 1km away so I started walking — I like late night walks and this time I saw the Eiffel tower on the way.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We met outside his apartment and sat on a nearby bench and started kissing/snogging, it was going really well, he was a good kisser and he said I was too and we sat and kissed for quite a while. I then started running my hand over his cock, no one was around and it was all going really well.

He then suggested we move somewhere more discreet, and we walked 20-30 yards and there was a hideaway just off the street, which was a little odd as I had expect to go to his apartment.

He made sure his fly were undone and guided my head down to his cock, which I then started sucking, and it was a good size to suck. I came up to snog him but every time he pushed me back down. I noticed he was getting a condom ready which made me even hornier as I have never had someone have anal sex with me. His penis was hard but not really super hard and any pause and it seemed to deflate a bit, suddenly he said “what a minute I know whats wrong” and turned around and started pissing!

Whilst pissing he was muttering that someone was meant to join us.
I was surprised about that as I never agreed to a threesome and he was pissing!
Thee moment had gone, I took the opportunity of him being busy to disappear and rather disappointedly headed back to my hotel.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was disappointed the next day

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? no one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? playing with a cock

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? the way it ended

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? no, I like casual safe hook ups with like minded men

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? good idea

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