Exploring My Bi Side



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? New York
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Retail
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Exploring my Bi side

How long ago did this hookup happen? This past summer

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was at a 4th of July BBQ and had a few beers and a little buzz, I was feeling curious that night so I headed to the gay bar. I’ve been here a few times but wasn’t sure how to act. I was approached by a few different types but was turned off. When I saw him I was instantly attracted, he had the nerdy look which turned me on and he was a gentleman instead of acting like a pervert. He was a little bit older and decently dressed.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We started talking in the bar and we went outside for some quiet and privacy, we talked about our preferences and I expressed how I like to be the feminine half of any arrangement, in other words I receive. He suggested going back to his house down the road. I had a sense of stranger danger but at the same time got excited at what was going to happen so I went for it and followed him to his house.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We got to his house and he explained how he just moved in a few months ago. He offered me something to drink and made me relax. We sat on the couch and he leaned over and we started making out, I was rubbing his cock through his jeans and I could feel how hard he was. He stood up and took my hand and led me to the bedroom. He undressed me as he kissed me and I undressed him. I went down on him right away and he led me on my back on to the bed. I asked him for condoms and he took out a bunch. He explained that he had to cum and assured me he would get hard again and he jerked himself off all over my stomach. I was a little concerned it was over but we started making out again dry humping, I felt him het hard again and he started to penetrate me missionary briefly stopping to put a condom on. He then slowly penetrated me anally in the missionary position while kissing me, I got so excited I actually had an orgasm, he lasted a while until he came hard and I felt the condom fill with hot cum inside me. I only had two other experiences with guys before and each time the guy would come and hop off of me and get awkward but this was different and I laid with him, my head on his chest and him holding me while we talked and he told me about himself etc. The closeness led to more making out because the intellectual connection turned me on so much. Making out led to him rolling me on top of him and I guided his cock in my ass while riding him, I didn’t expect him to cum and we were so careful the first time but I don’t think either one of us wanted to ruin the moment to get a condom. A few minutes later I heard him gasp and felt his hot load shoot inside of me, I collapsed on top of him and we made out some more. We laid again for awhile and talked and I mentioned it was late and had to go home. He walked me to my car and gave me a long sensual kiss goodbye. I really wish we exchanged numbers, I could see myself actually dating him and wanting more.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It really opened my mind to a lot of things. I have explored my bi side and it’s confusing being attracted to girls but also guys. Sex with guys was always a taboo thing I did secretly and each time before I had a bad experience. Not only was this physically satisfying but surprisingly emotionally connective and I enjoyed laying with him and cuddling as much as the sex, it made me realize that I might be open to a same sex relationship as well.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The emotional connection and the physical pleasure and how it goes hand in hand, I enjoyed it more physically because I felt connected emotionally

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not exchanging info and seeing him again

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes completely

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I’m glad I could express myself here since I haven’t told anyone else

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