Exploring a New Lifestyle



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 54
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Homemaker
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

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How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weekends ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Alex is a very attractive African American, lean, muscular and tall. We met at a bar, I was out with my girlfriend and he was with a guy that she wanted to hook up with him, I was only there in case he turned out to be a dud,

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I’d like to say that it was spontaneous, but the idea of having an affair actually started with my husband. I was under a lot of stress the past few years and with the onset of menopause really lower my libido. In the beginning, he was understanding but lately not so much. In fact, after one augment he said that he just didn’t care what I did, he gave up. So for the last 6 months it been like living with a roommate.
So when Alex and I sat there talking, I found his interest in what I was saying and the attention he was paying me stimulating. I quickly felt very comfortable with him and our conversation became a bit more personal, in fact, after a few drinks, I began to tell him my story.
He was an excellent conversationalist, not only saying the right things at the right time, he was able to coax me into revealing my feelings and his eye contact while he listened, well that just melted my heart.
Our friends seemed to have disappeared and when Alex asked me if I wanted him to take me home, well I said no, I was having a good time. We danced a little, and then when his hand brushed against my shoulder I could feel the electricity. When he mentioned taking me home again, I tried to say in a seductive voice that I’d like to spend the night with him, but I blurted it out and he smiled at me and hugged me, I knew then that I wanted him and was even more because he was so gentlemanly. I guess I convinced him, because we got a room.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was very romantic, we did a lot kissing and caressing. When we finally got around to undressing, I felt so at ease with him. Doubly lucky that not only was he a very unselfish and accomplished lover, he also met some other stereotypes. When I took his penis to reciprocate the oral, I had both hands around it and there was still some uncovered.
We made love in every conceivable position, but missionary was a bit painful and his kisses were so good. I rode him and we finished doggy

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We spent the night together. I honestly haven’t felt that good sleeping with someone in my bed as my husband and I haven’t shared the same bedroom in years.
I knew we both were aware that was just a one-night thing
I wish that we lived closer but he has a special place in my heart

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? I think he consented because he knew that I wanted it

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? no one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I needed it

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? that it was a one night thing

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, it has changed me, I am just not sure

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I didn’t think that my husband noticed but several days later he commented that I seemed more outgoing.

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