First As A Sub



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 48
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Netherlands
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Manager
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First As A Sub

How long ago did this hookup happen? A year

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He wrote me, on OKcupid. He had a cheeky way of asking things. It made me curious. He was obviously a dominant and I wanted to try it out. I was recently divorced and wanted to experience new things. I told him about that. He told me has a nice suitcase with toys. I was more than welcome to try them. But if I only wanted him to hit my ass and call me a slut. He said he would be glad to do so and fuck my brains out. I had never done anything like this, so his words had a huge effect on me.
We chatted for two nights and then planned to meet at a café. If I’d feel OK, I’d follow him to his home.
He was tall, slender, grey hair, late 40’s. Looked a bit too posh for me to really like him, but this was just curiosity and lust.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I told him I’d love to see his suitcase soon.
And expected to drive home with a sore butt.
We met during school/working hours: he cheated on his wife, I have two little ones to take care of.
So we met, with all these business appointments around us. I heard his voice and looked in his eyes and said: “Yes. I”ll follow.” He looked good, but his voice, immediately made me wet.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Entering his apartment, he showed me around and then I went to the bathroom. I was quite nervous! I walked up to him and said: “I’m yours.”
He grabbed me by my hair and kissed me overwhelmingly well. “So you’re my little slut now hmm?”
It felt so sexy..
Within a few minutes he kissed, undressed, sucked and ate me.. I felt like a princess. He ordered me to sit on his face. Ride his tongue. He spanked my ass .. pulled my hair and called me a slut when he fucked my face. I worshipped his cock. It was sooo hard. But he told me to stop. He had other plans, i.e. the suitcase. The joy! All those toys! He was nice to me, explained, and I got to choose. After that he was my boss again, I his slut. The pain felt so good. So sweet. He was so nice to me after. It felt so powerful to give the power to someone. We paused and cuddled.
I asked (begged) him to fist me. It was my first time. He kept checking if I was OK. “You like it like this slut? You’re OK? Will daddy try to go deeper? You like that don’t you? Damn you ARE a good kinky slut.” It was heaven.
Still… he had not fucked me yet. I wanted him so much. Begged him to fold me and fuck me. He ordered me to kiss his whole body (and I enjoyed licking his ass and sucking his balls 🙂 ) to earn a fuck. I could live with that.
After that he finally fucked me. I basically was daddy’s big soft bouncy fuckdoll. After he came he lied down on me. I love the weight.. we cuddled and talked. And then took a shower.
We both had to get back to business.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We texted a bit. No hopes. I was gratefull for the experience. Don’t want anything else /more.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Submission / Relinquishing power

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Some friends. New lovers. They were happy for me or got turned on.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Experience new things on my own initiative. Felt really powerfull.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? None

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? New experience for me, before I always had feelings for someone. Now I know that casual is just fine, hot, Fun.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Very good. Changed my view.

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