My First Black Man Was a Cheating Husband and Father



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 27
What’s your race/ethnicity? South Asian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? London
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Promiscious
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? ~30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2

My first black man was a cheating husband and father

How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 days

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I am currently doing an internship in summer as part of my MBA program. I have just started this job and (let’s call him) M is a senior colleague working on the same client. Since my first day M has been very friendly and gone out of his way to make me feel welcome. The department is very multicultural and yet I am one of the first South Asian’s working for it. M onboarded me and has been an extremely good mentor and work buddy — allowing me to settle into my role faster and start contributing. He is also from the same alma mater albeit almost 10 years older. Despite being close to 40, M is supremely fit and hardly looks like the father of two that he is. His high cheekbones, toned legs, big arms and dusky skin make him stand out in the impeccably pressed white shirts that are almost a trademark. In short, he is very handsome.

Seeing as we share an alma mater and he was onboarding M and I hit it off extremely well. He is funny and charming in a disarming sort of way — almost like he doesnt mean to be. But he is also very professional and almost always kept our conversations so, apart from during the intern initiation party when I realized he could be flirty if he had a few drinks in him.

From the start, I always found him very attractive and even mentioned so to my boyfriend (who is back home) who as always teased me about it. But I was in a committed relationship and M is a married father of two with a beautiful wife, so I never thought anything about it. Until last week.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Last week M and I had to stay back late to work on a deadline for one of our biggest clients. The work was intense and we pulled 14 hour days for 4 nights on a stretch. To chill out we would often grab a beer, hit back at work and watch some youtube videos to take the stress off. During this time I could feel our bond becoming closer — we were messaging regularly even post work and our conversations had moved from 90% about work to 90% about other stuff. I felt that he was attracted to me and I would often catch a glimpse of him staring a bit too long at my boobs or checking out my legs. But i couldn’t be sure and although the interest flattered me greatly I was not sure whether I was just deluding myself. That and our respective personal circumstances stopped me from pursuing him.

This all changed at the end of the week.

After the fifth consecutive day of pulling a late-nighter, we managed to wrap up early. As a celebration, we booted up some music on M’s laptop and got out some drinks to toast. There was no one at work by this point and when the music hit a particularly high note, M put his hand out and asked me if I wanted to dance. I hesitated at first but with a few drinks in me and already tired from the accumulated long hours, I decided ‘what the hell, I am all in’.

M was a good dancer, at the very least as good as me, if not better and soon we were having a lot of fun. But he was steadily getting bolder. His hands moved gradually from my waist to the small of my back and he pushed much closer into me. He is almost a foot taller than me and the resulting action made me feel somewhat dominated — and to be truthful, it turned me on quite a bit too. I could see it was the same for him as well. He was breathing heavier and and letting his hands be slightly more adventurous. I knew something was going to happen soon and it sure did as he swept me into his arms and stuck his tongue into my mouth.

There was a second of indecisiveness — a moment where he looked like he was going to say sorry, pull away and apologize profusely. But then I kissed him back and all his doubts disappeared in a frenzy of pent of sexual energy.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? M moaned audibly and whispered that he had wanted to do this from the first day he saw me. He became brave, adventurous and extremely dominant and it turned me on extremely. Despite my (for want of a better term) relative promiscuity I had never been with a black man before and the thought of seeing him naked really turned me on. But he had his fill first ripping open my shirt and squeezing my boobs with his bucket size hands. He complimented how firm they were and how there was no sag as he took them in his mouth and sucked them raw.

After a while he pushed me down and it was clear what he wanted me to do. I unhooked his pants and saw that he was pitching a huge tent in his boxers. I stripped them off too and was presented with my first view of a live black cock. At the risk of renewing stereotypes it was easily the biggest penis I had ever seen. I sucked him for a while and all too soon he was ready to cum. He wanted to cum in my mouth but I said no and instead he blew a huge load on my chest as I masturbated him with both hands. He stripped me naked and sucked on my boobs for a while more until he got hard again. It emerged at that point that he didn’t have a condom. I wasn’t very keen on letting him go bareback given the kind of control he had shown while cumming so soon from the blowjob. He apologized and said that he hadn’t had a blowjob in a while and that seeing me go down on him had proved too much. At this point, I was still horny and so was he, but I was unwilling to go without a condom. So instead we agreed on anal.

I usually love anal sex but his size was a big issue. I sucked him again to lube up his huge member and he stripped me naked and put me on his couch as he stood over me. It was a battle getting that big cock into my ass but once my spichter had adjusted to his girth it was also one of my most sexually satisfying experiences of my life. M was dominant but not experienced and sometimes he went too fast. But soon I took control of the pace and pushed back on the huge cock impaled in my asshole.

M fucked my ass for about 15 minutes, as he played with my boobs and massaged my clit. It sent me over the edge and I came twice as I felt like that big dick claim my asshole. After a while his thursts started becoming more and more desperate and I could tell that he was going to cum again. He begged me again to let him cum in my mouth but despite the incredible feeling I said no.

This seemed to push him over the edge and he pushed me roughly into the couch and intensified his thursts. It felt incredible, full, glorious and over the edge as he drove into my asshole with his big dick like a piledriver. I was moaning and he was screaming — the whole thing was very animalistic and in that same vein he screamed in delight and threw in a slew of profanity as he came inside my ass.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After we had both cum multiple times, the sexual energy came down as he came to terms with what had just happened. I had let a married man fuck my ass in his couch at his office. He helped me clean up and apologized for the shirt and called me a cab home. I couldnt walk the next day from how badly my ass had been fucked and had to take a sick leave. He called to check up on me, but the conversation was quite strained. I think we are both trying to come to terms with what happened.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) We had anal sex instead of vaginal

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication, Submission / Relinquishing power

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Havent talked to anyone about this yet. Dont think I will too. Writing this is my way of getting it out of my system.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? Because we are both in committed relationships and he is married!

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The feeling of being able to completely satisfy his huge dick and M. He couldnt stop saying how much he enjoyed me giving him head and how much he enjoyed fucking my ass. It made me feel very powerful to have so much control over his satisfaction. Seeing him sit on his desk with his shrinking penis in his hand and a huge smile on his face after he finished cumming was a huge affirmation of my sexual prowess.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The fact that we both cheated on committed monogamous partners

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really, but its made me conflicted about my decision making.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Done right it is one of the best things.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? As I stated before, I think its a great initiative.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!