My First Casual Sex Experience



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual

My First Casual Sex Experience

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I had met the man on the app Whisper. He was 22 years old. He wasn’t all that attractive, but he was decent-looking. I had never met him in my life, although he lived fairly close to me. I had been talking to him on the Whisper app for about two weeks before we decided to meet up for sex. Before the hookup, I made sure he was 100% authentic and not a catfish, by making him send various kinds of pictures to me.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We decided to meet up in the parking lot of a major grocery store that night around midnight. I knew it was risky business but it was going to be in a public place, which made me feel better about the situation. Little did he know, I was minutes away from having sex for the first time. I figured he didn’t need to know, since I didn’t want it to be “special” and just wanted to get it over with. I just wanted to know what it was like to experience sex. I had just broken up with my long-term boyfriend from high school, and we had only “fooled around” and gotten to oral sex. I was 18 at the time of this hookup – I decided I was ready to experience sex.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? My hookup partner and I drove my car to a dark spot in the parking lot of a business next door, which wasn’t open that late at night. He began by kissing me, fingering me, and giving me oral sex. He even performed analingus on me, which I was unsure of, but I began to enjoy it. I also performed oral sex on him. When it was time for penetration, I made sure he had condoms – I refuse to have sex without them. When he entered me, I expected it to hurt a little, but it didn’t at all. All the years of masturbation and fooling around with my ex-boyfriend had paid off. It was a much better first time than I had expected. My partner then asked if we could do anal. I agreed, since I wondered too what that felt like. Since he had “warmed me up” earlier, that didn’t hurt as much as I had expected either, and was actually rather pleasurable. We ended with me getting him off by oral sex – and I swallowed his cum.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I later regretted performing oral sex unprotected and swallowing a stranger’s cum. I realized I very well could have caught an STD. I got tested and the results came back negative, but I decided to be safer and make better decisions next time. Afterwards, my hookup partner continued to text me, but I wasn’t interested in another hookup. It was just a one night stand, and that’s all I wanted it to be. I have since changed my phone number and haven’t contacted him.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more confident, I was feeling lonely

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked about this hookup with my best friend. She congratulated me and asked me how it went.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The absolute best thing about this hookup was that it was a much better first time than I had expected. I expected pain, but there was none at all.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The worst thing was that he performed analingus on me without my clear consent, but I ended up being okay with it.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? This hookup started my positive attitude toward casual sex since it was pretty good.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? All of the sex I have had since my only ex has been casual sex, therefore it’s all I know. I don’t like the way it is frowned upon in society, since it is capable of bringing people happiness.

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