by Sally Hands
What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Upstate New York
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Staff writer
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 35?
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
First I Laughed, Then I Threw Up
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He looked like an athletic Mark Zuckerberg. Cute smile, nice height, kind of a ginger–we met in a bar in Manhattan. I had been purposely celibate for a few months prior, trying to take the momentum out of my promiscuity (and it seemed to be working). My friends were elsewhere hopped up on coke, but I’m only a drinker…it was a quiet bar, mostly women. The guys were all kind of shy. I took a seat on a couch and he decided to join me. immediately, he had me laughing. He thought I was batshit crazy because I stole a salt shaker. I really just assumed we’d make out.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We started to kiss and he asked if I wanted to continue in the car. Honestly, despite all my previous experience, I really thought we were just going to make out.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Somehow, within a few minutes of getting out to his car, we started fucking. He went down on me. I went down on him, too, but I vomited during. I swallowed most of the puke and wiped some on his dash, but he didn’t seem to notice. We started to fuck and I could barely feel his dick, so when he was fucking me from behind I stole 20 bucks from his wallet. He either came quickly or we stopped anyway, and I got out of the car and left him with my panties. We must’ve exchanged numbers beforehand, because although I immediately thought, “I’m never seeing this person again and have officially stopped counting sexual partners,” he texted that he couldn’t wait to taste my pussy again. I wandered back to my friend’s apartment pantyless, and then to another friend’s to shower in the morning. It was then that I found the 20 bucks in my bra and realized what I’d done (in regard to taking the $20). He soon texted me to meet up and I had nothing to lose, so he picked me up in Union Square and we got a hotel room with cable that didn’t work. I saw the puke on his dash, and still, he did not. When we got to the hotel, he showered, we fucked, he showered, we fucked, he showered…Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Now I could never tell him about the vomit, or the poor guy would have a conniption. I joked that he should pay me, and he said, “Didn’t I already?” – we both smirked. I showered and we left, kissed goodbye wherever he dropped me off again. We’re now connected on LinkedIn, under the guise that we’ve “done business together.”
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He was very kind. No bad feelings at all. If we’re ever in the same room again, we’ll both smirk and carry on in a knowing, maybe goofy way.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Friends that night, the next day.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was fun. I imagine we could be real friends.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not very pleasurable.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Nope.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’d like the stigma to disappear. I’ve had quite a bit of casual sex and I’m really happy for the experiences I’ve had, but as I said in my story, I was trying to curtail my promiscuity. I wish I didn’t feel the need to do that. I also would like for more monogamous couples to move toward being monogamish–my own relationship included–because it’s a joy to explore other bodies and try new things.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I want to work for it!
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