My First One-Night Stand



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 31
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Chef
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Hindu
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? almost 25
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

My First One-Night Stand

How long ago did this hookup happen? around 14 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? The partner (John) was my roommate’s (Shweta) boyfriend. He looked quite fabulous. He had just the balance between muscles and fitness. He was tall with a fair complexion. I knew him for a couple of weeks introduced by my roommate obviously. We both had similar taste and interest and hence we always did found something to talk about but our conversations obviously never crossed a limit because Shweta was always there to censor it. Once we were talking about our first sexual intercourse and Shweta was really bummed that he was interested in my story more than he was in hers. So anyway before I did felt attracted towards him because of his physique and the charm that he had but it wasn’t serious and he was just another friend for me who happened to have what it takes to woo a girl.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? During a weekend, Shweta was at home and was about to come back on Sunday night but due to heavy rain, she couldn’t make it. And as they had some kind of anniversary ( I don’t know if it was their anniversary, or the first time they met, or something else), John had come to our room to surprise her not knowing that she won’t be coming till next day evening. So anyway I buzzed him in and we had some tea and snacks and started to gossip. As there was no censoring now, our talks did go to a little grey side. Now I don’t know how much of that was true but he came out as quite a nice loving guy. Then he asked me a question that I didn’t want to answer so I rather turned on the radio and one of our favourite track was playing. He asked to dance with him on it and I couldn’t refuse. The dance got us further closer. And boy did he knew how to make a girl lose her senses! It was like I had forgotten that he was someone else’s man and was just lost in the sensual feeling. When the song ended we were standing close to each other breathing heavily; my hands were over his shoulder, his hands were around me as if he wanted to take me in. I thought I should break this tension so I tried to move back, but he held me tighter and pulled me closer and for a long second we just looked at each other’s eyes.  Then, he kissed me. For the first two seconds, I wanted to pull back so that I could spare myself a mistake but after that my intelligence took a nap. My hands were caressing his hair and my tongue was inside his mouth. He loosened my hair and started playing with it. After a long kiss of passion I came back to my senses and pulled back; I took a few steps back and told him that I couldn’t do it – not with a guy who had been dating my roommate for months. He tried to convince me otherwise. And soon my desires took over my logic. And when he kissed me, I gave him the green light.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? His lips were against mine and his hands were searching my bra hook. I removed his tee and he undid my bra. We moved to my bedroom. We licked and kissed every inch of each other’s body. He was sucking on my nipples like a baby. Then I put my hands on his erect cock and started fondling it. Then he asked me if I would like to taste it, and I did. He told me just before he was about to unload and he unloaded it in my mouth and on my boobs. He told me to lick his cock clean. Then he put his finger in my cunt and started fingering me. He licked my vagina and man he was good at it. After he had tasted my juices he asked me if I would like to make things a little kinky. He blindfolded me with a handkerchief and then he fucked me. He was a good lover. We did everything but anal and sadism. We talked about our situation and what I meant to him.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The day after the hook-up, when I asked him when he was going to break-up with Shweta, he completely declined to do it and told me to forget whatever happened.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked about it to a friend regarding how should I confront Shweta. It was a neutral reaction.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Very much

Why do you regret this hookup? Because I was fooled.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That I was misled.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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