First Time



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Personal Trainer
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First Time

How long ago did this hookup happen? 11 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This the story of how I lost my virginity.

It was my freshman year in High School and I was on the gymnastics, track, and tennis teams. I was raised by a strict Christian family. Basically, if the church doors were open, I was present. I was also the last virgin within my group of friends. One evening after track practice, I caught the senior quarterback of our football team checking me out. He was over 6ft tall, sandy blonde hair, blue eyes, and very muscular. I was wearing a sports bra and tight running shorts. He was popular at my school and I was looking for any chance to get noticed. I also knew he had a girlfriend on the cheerleading squad that was really horrible. Since he was also on our track team, I got to flirt with him while we were away at competitions. I’ll admit I enjoyed the attention. On one trip, he asked if I’ve ever dated anyone before and I told him no.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? One day at school, a friend of mine on the track team overheard him telling his friends how he loved my body and that he wanted to fuck me if he ever got the opportunity. One of his friends told him his girlfriend would go crazy if she heard him talking like that. When I heard the story, I was excited so my friend came up with a plan. Her family would be out of town the following weekend. Since she stayed in an apartment above her parent’s garage that was built for her older brother who moved out, I could use it. I would tell my parents that I was spending the night with her and we wouldn’t mention that her parents were away visiting her brother. My friend would spend the night with her boyfriend.

Friday night worked out perfect because his girlfriend was away at cheer camp so the chances of her finding out would be slim. On Wednesday, my friend went and made the offer. Instantly, he sent me a text. “Sounds good. See you at 8 pm”. I arrived at her place around 7, I only had conservative clothes so my friend let me borrow a skin-tight mini dress that was too small for her.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He arrived early and I was glad. I could tell by his expression and the way he was looking at me that he loved my outfit. We wasted no time and started making out. He lifted my dress off and then his clothes were gone too. I lead him to the bedroom and sat on the edge of the bed with my legs open.
I waited while he tried to open the condom. At this point, I think he was actually more nervous than I was. He finally got it on and lined up between my legs. He shaking nervously which made the condom keep falling off so he had to hold it in place while trying to enter me. Since that didn’t work, he opened a second condom. This time he was more determined, he walked up between my legs, lined himself up and gave a quick hard push with a couple of quick thrusts before he pulled out. He was holding on to the condom as he filled it up. The entire moment lasted around 30 seconds. He apologized, I said it was fine but asked if he would like to hang out and try again later. He agreed. I straddled him and we made out on the bed for a while. I could tell he wasn’t ready so and I gave him my first ever blowjob. He still didn’t get hard enough and I could tell he was becoming stressed and embarrassed. He admitted he didn’t have any more condoms even if he did recover soon. He asked if we could ‘hook-up’ again and told him that would be good. It was getting late so he left.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? His girlfriend found out. I think a friend of his told everyone and the word got around. She confronted me at school and I don’t think it helped when I told her that we were just having fun.
She was so pissed that she told my parents and I was grounded for the rest of the year. Starting my sophomore year, I had to go to a private Christian school. I never got to hook-up with him again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, Everyone else was/is doing it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friend that let me use her place. She laughed at how fast things happened and she gave him a secret nickname “JackRabbit”.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I was a young naive girl in a new school and was able to lose my virginity to a popular senior guy who already had a girlfriend.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I felt bad that my parents found out the way they did. I think they may have been more understanding if I had told them myself. However, they were upset that I wasn’t truthful with them about spending the night with my friend. They were obviously disappointed that I had sex but even more disappointed that I had created a situation of temptation that lured someone to stray from their relationship.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I don’t regret having sex with my first partner. He’s a nice guy and at the time I found him very attractive. I wanted him to be my first and I’m still glad he was. My intentions were never to disrupt his relationship. I just wanted to have sex with him.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like that people can share their experiences and it’s totally anonymous. Hopefully, my story can relate to someone else that may have been in a similar situation. I don’t think having sex with a willing partner is wrong.

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