First Time

by Gigi

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Philadelphia
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Pansexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Queer, Ace
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1, this partner
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First Time

How long ago did this hookup happen? In the past week

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We started chatting on Tinder. I made it pretty clear I wanted to lose my virginity and that that’s what I was after. We talked for a few days before meeting up at his place. He was nice, taller than me, and pretty lean. He was prettier than his picture which was a pleasant surprise. I

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I went to his place, knowing that we were going to hook up. We talked for a while, listening to music. Finally, he gave me a look that clearly was saying we should get this started. I nodded and we got to it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We made out on his bed for a bit. We kissed, and he moved down to my throat and neck. He started handling my breasts. He reached under my skirt and laughed about how wet I was. I took off my shirt, skirt, and panties. We made out more as he started to finger me. He asked me if I’d be willing to give him a blowjob, and I hesitated because I’d never done that before. I did it. He didn’t finish in my mouth, but got a condom and put it on. I was a little nervous before he entered me but he got in and started thrusting. I wish he had kissed me a little more during it.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We both cleaned up, got dressed, and then I left. I kind of felt numb afterwards, but I didn’t hate it. He was really nice, and I appreciated that. I don’t know what’s going to happen now. I might reach out.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Thought it was an important experience to have

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told a few of my friends. Most of them tried to comfort me because I wasn’t feeling the greatest. One of them said “You go, girl,” because the guy was apparently way out of my league.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? I did it to feel something and I didn’t.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He was really nice. I was glad to meet him.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Didn’t orgasm.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Think I might be asexual, but I’m not sure.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s a step in the right direction towards lessening the stigma against casual sex.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!