First Time With A Man


What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 36
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Revere
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Self employed
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Bisexual explorer
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First Time With A Man

How long ago did this hookup happen? 8 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was curious, watching gay porn on the internet. So I posted on craigslist on personals. He traded pictures that night.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He came over the next morning, I invited.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I showered before he came. Once he entered he used the bathroom and we went to my room. He told me to relax and lay by his side. He then put his shorts down (no underwear) and asked me if I liked it. I said yes. He told me to touch it and put it in my mouth. I didn’t like the taste that much so I stopped. He then told me to lay down for a massage. He massaged my legs, ass and once he got to my back he went back to my ass, opened it and started licking and sucking. It felt amazing, I had never experience that before. He did that for many minutes, then put me on doggie position to suck my cock and finger my ass at the same time. It took me 3 minutes and I came. He didn’t cum.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt weird because it was new to me. Until today it feels weird after a same-sex experience.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Submission / Relinquishing power, Boredom

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Found out how good it is to have my ass licked.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It was weird.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Made me feel like exploring more.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Even after I came, the guy wanted to keep licking my ass. Before he left, he wanted to keep in touch and tried to kiss me, I don’t like kisses, so I turned my face. He asked me if I would fuck him in the car.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think some people could do it safer. Many people try getting unprotected penetration.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Interesting.

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