First Tinder Hookup

by Lilith

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Balkans
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? social science
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? /
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First Tinder Hookup

How long ago did this hookup happen? day ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I`ve started to use Tinder few weeks ago, and we were match and start to chat. He is few years older then me, tall guy, fit, dark – the type that always attracts me. We chatted, mainly about sex history. I liked how communications is easy. I like his openness in communication, I know that I will like his look. I was little nervous, I haven`t had this kind blind hookup for years.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He bring the topic of sex first, and I went with the flow. It was easygoing communication, we found quickly matching sexual interests and start to plan hook up.I had to reschedule few times and he handled it well. We agreed to meet at his place. We exchanged some ideas about what we will like to do.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? As soon as we entered the place, he started to kiss me, and we were taking clothes off. We were talking about anal and oral sex before, so I went down to blow him. Shortly after, we did anal, some break and then I blow him until he came in my mouth. He was little bit dominate-move here,there, I didn`t like that, it felt like he is training me.He wanted to talk like:… tell me that you like the way I fuck you… It was also annoying, I told him to shut up. He was responsive about it, he stopped. He knows what to do in that way he is good lover. But he was not in contact with me, I felt as I am working out – just physical activity. After he come, we dressed, and I went home.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We haven`t talked yet. I am ambivalent about future meetings, so I am going to wait to hear back from him. I felt fine after it and happy. I verify to myself that I like to have sex as part of my life, that I can bring my sexual energy no matter what. And I also verify that I am not submissive type:) I start to think that he is little bit too much into sex for my taste.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Boredom

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Few friends know, they were happy that I am doing sth for myself.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Feeling my sexual desire and expressing my sexuality.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not reaching orgasm

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It confirmed me that casual sex must be part of my life

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? /

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? The biggest part of my sexual experience is casual sex. It helped me to stay confident, happy and enjoy life. It saved me from meaningless love relationships and helped me to define what is intimacy for me. I would like for society to stop shaming it and start to accept that is possible to separate sex and love.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love it. Real example of true psychological spirit.

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