What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 60
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Africa
What country and/or city do you live in? Zimbabwe
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Retired engineer
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Many
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
Fling On Safari
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was very attractive. Right size breasts and curves. An African American, with lovely natural hair. Lovely to look at. She was serving at the bar. I had never met her before that evening.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My role was spontaneous. I have not spoken with her since, and can only presume that she decided that at that moment she needed more than she was getting at home.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I was on safari alone and stopped at a camp owned by an acquaintance. I hadn’t planned to stop there but it was late and the park gate was closed so I couldn’t continue. All the rooms were full, so I pitched my tent and went to find something to eat at the bar. There was a mixed group of people, and I struck up a discussion with a couple who were volunteers working at a clinic on the other side of the country.
There were a number of people behind the bar, a man and two women. I discovered they were African Americans from their accents when serving other customers, but I only spoke with the guy. They were playing a bar game with another group, and I don’t believe I spoke to the girls at all. The one who is the focus of this post never made eye contact with me that night. She was really attractive and had just the kind of body that hits all the right buttons for me. Anyways, I ate my meal and had a few cokes, but no alcohol. At about 10 I went to my tent.
The party got louder and I slept fitfully. It had been a long hot day. The moon was full so there was a lot of light. Around 1 am I was woken up. The party was over, and there was someone talking softly to me. I awoke fully and asked what was going on. A conversation developed, while I was naked on top of my camp bed. It was hot, and as it turned out, the other person was the very attractive girl from the bar sitting on the other side of the gauze window. She had been dumped by her boyfriend who ran the camp. He was out on safari with clients, and she was very unhappy and was planning to head back to the US.
Some background. I have been married to a wonderful woman for over 20 years. We are very happy, But sex does not rank high among her personal needs, and while we might have the most unbelievable sex, it only happens maybe 3 or 4 times in a good year. Some years ago, after initiating sex during the night, she told me the following morning that she felt that I had raped her. I was surprised by that, and resolved never again to initiate any sexual moves on her, as I was so upset by this. I have never forced myself on anyone in my life. But she offers to “help out” by masturbating me from time to time, but even a good wank is a poor substitute for a proper fuck. So, my philosophy has been, when opportunity knocks, one does as needs must.
So, explaining my present state of undress, but aware that this conversation was quite awkward with her sitting outside, she accepted my invitation to enter my little 2 person dome tent.
Her sorrowful tale did not continue for much longer, as I reached out to comfort her, and she moved into my embrace. This quickly followed with a tender kiss on her forehead. Then things became amazingly passionate very quickly, driven by one of the best kissing sessions in my post adolescent life.
In moments she was naked and one of the most amazing sexual experiences of my life had begun.
I try to always to be prepared and carry protection when I am travelling. On this occasion, I was not a good boy scout, and was caught completely off-guard. She started with fellation. She was believable, deep and tender with sympathetic attention to my testicles. I proceed to suck her breasts and to explore between her legs. She was wet and receptive, and I massaged her clit and gspot. When she was ready she rolled back, opened her legs and I entered her. The period of enforced abstinence meant that I could not hold back for as long as I would have wanted, and exploded inside of her in no time. We rolled onto our sides and slept for a while. About forty minutes after we climbed into each other, she cleaned up with a tissue, dressed and vanished.
I packed up and was on the road soon after five in the morning. I have good memories of that occasion. For the record, I have been for checkups, and thankfully no unwanted bugs have been found.
It was months before my wife invited me to have sex with her, which turned out to be a blessing, and gave me time to get properly tested. We have had sex a total of 3 times since then.
So I continue to be an easy target for any wanton attractive member of the opposite sex who would have their wicked way with me.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was invigorated the next day, and the rest of my trip was made so much better by this chance moment of sheer passion.
I stopped at the camp again some month or so later and she was still there.
There were too many people present so we ignored one another after brief greetings. I think she had patched up her relationship.
If we were to meet in the right circumstances, I would be happy to hook up again.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I never discuss my sexual escapades with anyone.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? From my own perspective, the spontaneity, the raw animal attraction, the perfect coupling and sexual fulfillment.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup?
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think properly initiated mutually agreed hookups are beneficial to my current situation.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I support this initiative. It titillates the voyeur in me to a lesser extent, but the forum provides information that can help the individual to better understand the risks and advantages from having casual sexual relationships.
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