Friends Turning to More

by DJ

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Friends turning to more

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She and I had a class together and I thought she was cute, she thought the same of me. I didn’t think anything of it because I’m not the hookup type and so we were just friends. We never really hung out, but talked occasionally. One day she asked to hang out and I obliged. We went to her house to watch a movie or something. She was white, dark brown hair, brown eyes, 5’7″ or so. I’m 6’3″. B cup and thin/fit.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She was wearing a beautiful maxi dress and like I said she was very attractive to me, especially because you could see a thong peeking through a bit. We were always pretty open with each other, talked about sex, fantasies a bit, etc. but agreed we weren’t going to try anything at first. I did mention that I wasn’t sure how good my penis would look to a girl as I’d never been naked with one before, she asked if I wanted her opinion. I said maybe sometime.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We sat on the couch to watch a movie, but never really started it. She kinda leaned up against me and we kissed and it turned passionate. We started touching, her breasts were firm and perky. I grew hard. I took her dress off and she noticed my hard cock. She mentioned it jokingly, then undid my belt and pulled off my shorts as I was playing with her breasts (touching, massaging, licking, sucking). She ended up giving me a hand job and blowjob which was great. I fingered her and performed oral sex. We went at it for a bit, both naked touching, kissing, fingering, etc.. Then we went to the shower. She knew I wanted to wait for sex with my wife, but ended up bending over to try to get me to fuck her. I didn’t, but she grinded against my hardon. I was not comfortable with it but she wouldn’t stop grabbing it and trying. She admitted to being disappointed later than we didn’t have sex.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I found out she lied about being a virgin. She had been with many guys and only wanted to be my friend to try to fuck me. So she ended up being a slut. Then I worried about STDs and whatnot so it was stressful. I felt used and lied to.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To feel more desirable, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner, I didn’t want it but was unable to stop it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat

Why do you regret this hookup? I felt used. I wouldn’t have gone as far if I’d have known she slept around and wanted me mostly for sex. But I was happy that she enjoyed my body, liked my size/girth, and my fingering/oral skill.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The handjob/blowjob, seeing her naked. Making her orgasm 2-3 times.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Being lied to.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? A little bit. I want it less now actually.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it’s best to wait for sex until marriage not only for religious reasons but also because of the emotions, health risks, pregnancy risks, etc. that come with sex.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s great. It is a great way to learn more about it and think about what I want.

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