What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 76
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Retired Lawyer
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Closeted Gay Promiscuous
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Must be hundreds of men. A handful of women.
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? Several, all hetero.
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How long ago did this hookup happen? Roughly 30 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-Night Stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This is about the numerous men I had sex with through gloryholes (both sucking and being sucked). I rarely saw the men, I would see their cock or they would see mine (sometimes both) and that’s all that we wanted or needed to see. Women have a lot of trouble wrapping their minds around this.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I would go to an adult bookstore arcade and go into a booth. There would often be a “gloryhole” between the two sections. I would peek through and if there was a man there we would signal whether we wanted to suck or be sucked. It is the most exciting sex in my life and I love swallowing the cum. Sometimes I would suck a few cocks and then get sucked. After I had my orgasm I left. It doesn’t sound like a very “pure” experience, but it really was. Pure sex.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Sometimes jerking off, but mostly just sucking. The variety of experiences was endless. Some cocks are bigger or smaller. Some men cum fast and others slow. Some men are verbal or thrust their hips. Others are quiet and passive. In any case, it was intense and raw sex. All about orgasms.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? All I wanted the next day was do it again, and I would. It all came to an end with the advent of HIV, but the time right before that was a golden age for anonymous gay sex. I assume that many of the men were also married, but, like me, loved sex with men.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Power / Dominance, Submission / Relinquishing power, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? All the great sex. I love to cum and I love to swallow cum.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Some were better than others. I never had a really bad experience.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I certainly learned how sexual I am. I still suck cock when I can (and still have sex with my wife).
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? This is a composite of many individual experiences. They were all different and the anticipation was great. I loved every bit of it.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’m all for it.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it.
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