What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 48
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Medicine
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Too many
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2


How long ago did this hookup happen? 20 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was in her early 20s. She was back in town visiting family and friends, staying at her parents house while they were away. I met her at a local swimming hole where people get naked. She was wearing a bathing suit and I was skinny dipping. She was there with an unattractive friend who was overweight. She on the other hand was gorgeous with long dark hair, thin, and tanned. I think she had sort of a hippy thing going on, both in her appearance with jewelry and braids, also with a wide eyed enthusiasm. Maybe she was just happy to be back in town. I chatted her up sitting all vulnerable and naked. She and her friend were going out for a drink at a local brewery, so she asked me along. I spent many hours with them and we ended up back at her parents house. She put her friend to bed and we snuggled on the sofa.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We started kissing. I took her shirt off and nuzzled on her small breasts. I pulled her panties aside and rub my hard cock against her pussy. We did not discuss condoms or birth control. I pushed my cock up inside of her while we were kissing, I was lying on my side and she was on her back next to me. This position was awkward, so we stood up, I took her panties off and sat back down on the couch while she mounted me. She was so small, after a while I picked her up still with my cock inside of her, holding her up by her small little ass, her legs wrapped around my waist. We fucked standing up for a while.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end?  We talked a lot. She told me about her boyfriend, her plans in life, her thoughts about religion. If I recall well, she was into meditation or at least some sort of eastern religion. She told me she normally doesn’t hook up with people, but that her interactions seemed so open and spontaneous. After a while I asked if I could be inside of her again, she was playing on top of me. My cock slid into her wetness, we moved very slowly because I knew I would come in her. It was very late, we were both very tired. It felt like an emotional moment. Ultimately I did not have an orgasm, and I don’t know if she did either. I am not one to leak a lot of pre-come, and to the best of my knowledge I have never gotten anyone pregnant. Sometimes when people ask me if I have any children, I think about her and wonder if she would have found me to let me know she was pregnant, just because we spent so much time with my bareback cock all up inside of her.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I went home at 4 in the morning. I felt emotionally raw and alive for days to weeks after. A year or two later, I saw her crossing the road as I was driving home. I was in a relationship at the time with a woman that was a good friend but with whom I had no sexual chemistry. I wish I had been able to reconnect with that girl.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel more desirable, I was feeling lonely, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friend. He was encouraging.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The emotional connection, the smell of her body, the feeling of my cock in her wet pussy

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That it ended and I went back to my life alone.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general?  I have had a lot of hook ups in my life, most of them fairly one and done, anonymous, mostly with men. This hook up was much more emotional and raw. I still think about her all these years later.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have enjoyed a lot of casual sex, and it has been fun. I think that it has made it harder for me to connect with my partners in some ways.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like reading

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