Race/ethnicity: Latin American
Current location: Brazil
Highest education received: High school diploma
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
Great…While It Lasted
How long ago did this hookup happen? Three years ago
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night stand
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She had amazing long black hair, she was taller than me and she had those huge and hot black eyes. We’re actually neighbors, however we never talked to each other until she sent me a friend request on Facebook and that was when we started talking about school and music, honestly, I never noticed her, because her parents are very strict, but I always knew she wasn’t that good girl everyone thought she was.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After we got to know each other on Facebook, we decided to talk about something deeper, something more nasty, if I may say so. We were very into sexuality and despite my faith, I always was curious to know something about sex which is a interesting issue for most teenagers at my age. I come from a christian background and my family never let me see or even think about sex. I consider this to be a problem, because they never understood my thoughts, my doubts and how desperate I was to know something about it. Besides, I had many problems with masturbation, lustful thoughts at night and all sorts of things you guys can think of. If you think religion holds you back from sex, you might be mistaken, because it doesn’t and the more someone or something tries to hide it from you, the nastier the sex may get and that was exactly what happened between this neighbor and me. We were thinking of having sex, but she was a bit shy, but I was the one who gave her some confidence to have a sexual encounter with me.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were very stupid, to be honest. I didn’t have much experience either, my brother, on the other hand, told me to do some stuff and he actually told me to do this and that and it indeed worked. Sincerely, I consider myself to be a very smart guy and I like to find out new ways to do things and when it comes to sex, I have plenty of thoughts and I guess that’s why I went this far. But this girl who I got laid with was a bit shy and she didn’t want me to feel bad about her body since she didn’t look that sexy, but it wasn’t a problem, because I kind of liked her and she was okay with me. When we were about to have sex, she told me to come over her place, because her parents were out and so I went there and she told me to go to her room upstairs, I started kissing her a lot, I took her shirt off with care and I kissed her boobs a lot and that was good, to be honest, after that I told her to lay on the bed and I took her skirt off and I gave her a blow-job which was actually something I never thought of doing to someone, but personally, I never thought it would be that good, either. As I was licking her vagina, she was moaning and touching my hair softly and smoothly. My penis was hard already and I was afraid that I would masturbate, but I breathed and I guess it helped me not to masturbate so quickly and then she said she wanted me inside her and when I put my penis in her vagina, that was the best feeling I’ve ever felt in my whole life so far and I really don’t know if there’s something in this world that can feel as good as sex. However, I didn’t have much experience back then, so it didn’t last so much. It took around five or six minutes.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? She didn’t, she actually bled, because that was her first time.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? She told me she wanted me to put a condom on and so I did, but we didn’t talk about STIs.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? She was really nice, I liked her and she was the only person I felt that attached to and I saw no reason not to have sex with her and as I said, I was really curious about sex and I wanted to know what it would feel like if I could do it with someone.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No, it wasn’t. We didn’t drink anything and we still don’t.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After we had sex, she felt better and she thanked me for giving her more confidence about her body and I was really relieved, because I didn’t have many doubts and I felt better about my body and I found out that this kind of thing happens to anyone and it is normal to feel attracted to someone and have desires towards that person. However, I felt a bit worried because I thought I did something wrong and due to my background, I thought I would go to hell and all that thing, but I changed my mind afterwards, because I realized that sex should be talked about without shame and when we try to hide this from people, we are turning people into ignorant and fools which is something we shouldn’t do. Instead, we should talk, help and provide pieces of advice which would enable people understand than feelings and thoughts and if I had my priest’s help or my parents’ care, maybe I would have a better understanding about sex.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one. I’d have been kicked out or worse if I had told someone.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, it was and we enjoyed very much, but it’s sad to know that we never were able to do it again since her parents moved.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No, I don’t, because it helped me understand more things about my body and I’m able now to face some problems regarding sexuality.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The sensations, the feelings, her moaning sounds, her body…It was something that I had never experienced before and I was very amazed about how amazing sex can be to people. The worst thing, though, was that it didn’t last much and she felt nervous about me getting angry at her because of her body, but I didn’t care since I wanted her to feel wanted and this experience has changed my mind a lot. After I did this, I changed my mind towards my faith and what I read, now I don’t have any shame to discuss sex, I can advise some of my friends who are going through doubts and problems with their sexuality and besides that, I believe I’m a more tolerant person towards people’s mistakes.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
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