Grindr Guy



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Philippines
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Account Executive
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Discreet
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Grindr Guy

How long ago did this hookup happen? just last night

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was lanky. We met on Grindr. I don’t know what made me do it. I’ve had offers before, but I was too scared to accept them. But last night, I really went there.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He said that he was alone in the house. The home was kinda nice maybe that’s why I agreed.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When I arrived at his house, I asked who would take the shower first. He said we could do it together. Then I started shaking. I haven’t experienced going to the shower with someone else. When I got in, he actually had the bath prepared. We slipped in the bath tub then he started grabbing my dick. I did not know what to do so I just let him hold it. He must have gotten bored so he stopped and told me to proceed to the bed. We watched some porn then he asked me to start sucking him off. I lied that it was my first time to suck, but actually, I’ve been sucking my cousin’s dick every now and then. We 69’d. He came first inside my mouth. I immediately spat it out, rushed to the bathroom, and gargled some mouthwash. I lied that my dad was looking for me to I went home directly.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I feel disgusted. I was completely out of my mind. I am afraid to swallow my saliva because I think there is still remnants of his cum inside of my mouth. I’m never going to have a hook-up again. Unless it’s with my future boyfriend.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient, I didn’t want it but was unable to stop it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? my close cousins and friends. They were shocked that I actually did it.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Very much

Why do you regret this hookup? Because I could have done it with someone who cared enough. LOL as IF. My partner came first and he just let me came by myself.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? nothing. actually the place haha

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Everything.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? YES.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? i don’t even know why i am sharing this.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? i dont know

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? this is amazing.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!