What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 35
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Illinois
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Nurse
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 40
How long ago did this hookup happen? Tonight
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Wife and I have a cuckold type relationship where she has sex with others and I either watch or get the stories about it later. She also likes to make me do things with other men to humiliate me. This was a grindr meeting, he messaged me looking for a bottom and my wife responded and sent me to his house 20 minutes later.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I threw on a pair of shorts and some flip flops. I didn’t wear any underwear as my wife said I probably wouldn’t need them anyway. I also took lube with me just in case.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I came in and went into his bedroom. He dropped his pants and I started giving him head. I did that for a few minutes until we moved to the bed. He gave me head for a bit also and then got on top of me. He had lube in his top drawer so I didn’t need mine, he lubed up and shoved his dick in my ass. To my surprise it actually felt kinda good, he was pretty excited as he was a bigger guy and I’m pretty small. He was on top for probably 3 minutes before he said he wanted me from behind. I spun around and he pounded me super hard from the back while he jacked me off. I actually came pretty hard just about the time he emptied into my ass. I came home and my wife was very happy that a guy fucked me and came in my ass.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He told me he doesn’t do that very often, he is widowed and was curious. Said he’d like to fuck me more often. Next time my wife might watch though
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Submission / Relinquishing power, Peer pressure, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Told my wife when I got home. She made me lay on the bed and take pics of my ass oozing cum.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? This is the 3rd time I have been fucked and it surprisingly felt pretty good. Guess I’m getting used to it
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The mess afterwards
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? My wife is very dominant and has told me that this is the relationship that she wants and I just need to get used to it. I guess it’s not so bad, I never saw myself as bi until all this but I’ve learned that sex is just sex and I’m not attracted to men at all. I simply provide pleasure for them at times.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It was fun. I think everyone should try it once
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Sex is sex, not everyone has the same sexlife and nobody should have to explain. As long as its legal and nobody gets hurt there should be no problems
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like reading everyone’s stories
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