Heartfelt

by Natalie

Age: 40s
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Location: Australia
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
How religious are you? Very
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Heartfelt

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1992

How would you best classify this hookup? One night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Male of average description, I shall call him G. We had finished school a few years earlier, yet we weren’t particularly close during our high school years. Ironically, it was his older brother that brought us closer, in a sad way.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Definitely unplanned! I was out shopping locally and happened to bump into G at the shops. His family had moved away from the area, but was back home visiting old friends. We started chatting outside McDonalds about nothing in particular, then asked me if I wanted to go for a drive to meet up with other people and have a few beers. We did have a few drinks socially, in which time we felt more relaxed with each other. After 2 hours or so, the gathering broke up and it was myself, G and his mate left. The guys wanted to get more beer, so off on another drive, then came back to my place. We all sat in my bedroom, talking quite innocently. After a while, I wanted to get more comfy so I lay down on my bed and G ended up with his arm around me. We got rid off his mate, told him to sleep in the lounge. From there, G and I spoke about heart & emotional connection, some deep stuff and that’s when it all started.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Funnily enough, this is the only time I can think of where I had sex 3 times in a row!  We had more sex than sleep 🙂 Nothing out of the ordinary took place, very simple and sweet.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used condoms, as both of us were quite sexually aware.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? No particular reason, but emotionally I had been linked to his brother, who had passed away some years earlier which led to the emotional connection.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No drugs, sociable quantities of alcohol, neither of us were intoxicated.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We were very casual, making no expectations or concrete plans – the following day we met at the shops and spoke briefly but both of us were busy, then the next day he was leaving in the afternoon. I offered to take him to the coach stop, which he accepted. I also took his mate with us on the drive. G shook his mate’s hand and gave me a big hug and kiss goodbye and I waved him off on the coach. Since then, we only met up once briefly about 2 years later. I still think highly of our experience, although there was never any expectation of anything further.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? For some reason, this is something I have kept to myself.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Consensual and wanted for both.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing about this hookup was that G was someone known to me and we were both enigmas to each other, therefore creating some mystery to it all.  Nothing to speak of in terms of negativity – maybe I wish we had more time together or be in contact today.  Perhaps at the time, I carried guilt over casual sex, but I realise that it is perfectly fine 🙂

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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