What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Sillicon Valley, CA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Tech Designer
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
Hookup at my Reunion
How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Tina (not her real name) was a brunette with short bob hair. I thought she was cute and pretty but she would probably be considered average by most standards and most guys wouldn’t give her a second look. I would say she was probably the same age as me or maybe a little younger. She had worked as a caterer at my High School reunion. Before the hookup I didn’t even know her.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had gone home for my 10 year high school reunion and it had been a while since my last breakup and since I had been with anyone. I had checked in and noticed a smile from the cheerleader (I know she had been one in High School) at the name tag counter and a few looks from some of the women around the room. Jen the head cheerleader what I would call a stupid hot busty blonde in a low-cut dress that showed a lot of cleavage had started talking to me and hanging around me that first night at the dinner. I am a somewhat heavyset nerd with glasses and not used to a lot of interest from women.
A quick warning from one of the jock guys told me Jen had been divorced twice and was a golddigger and word had gotten around I had some financial success and that was why she was interested in me. He had encouraged me to go for it and I considered maybe one nighting her as again she was really hot and it would have been a night of probably pretty hot sex. However I had been with my last girlfriend strictly for her looks and the sex and her for my money and it was not something I cared to repeat.
I was a little down that second day and Jen continued to hang around. My high school crush was married with two kids (her I would have let my newfound popularity to get in bed) and not interested and my high school girlfriend had not shown, not that I was surprised. Here is where I met Tina who I had talked to a little bit and casually asked if she wanted to have drinks and she agreed.
We met at the hotel bar as I was staying upstairs. We ordered drinks and flirted a little bit and then she asked if I wanted to go to my room. We kissed in the elevator.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We made out on my couch for a bit before moving to my bed. I got her top off quickly and her boobs out and she let me suck on them a bit and we then made out some more. The sex itself was pretty straight forward, once we had all our clothes off Tina spun me around and mounted me and said she liked to be on top and rode me until we both came. We chatted a bit about random things and we both fell asleep soon after.
In the morning I woke up first and we kissed when she woke up. She covered herself and got dressed and I think Tina was embarrassed she had one drink and then slept with me. We swapped numbers and then she left.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We texted and talked and emailed back and forth for a while. I liked her but I went home that Monday and the distance I think prevented any kind of relationship from starting. We stayed in contact for a few months and I met someone over the holidays that I have been spending some time with so I haven’t been contacting Tina much and probalby won’t much longer.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, To feel better about myself, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Told one friend who siad it was about time I moved on from my ex
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I would say it was me finally moving on from my ex
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That it didn’t go anywhere
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not about casual sex or sexuality all though I would say I had only one other encounter before this I would consider really casual. Again I did see this as moving on from my ex.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? For most guys it’s a huge part of thier lives but I prefer sex with someone I care about and am in a relationship with.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s interesting and I have been following it for a while but just never got around to posting before now
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