What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? York
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Till Operator
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Passionate
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Hot, Steamy, Spanish sex
How long ago did this hookup happen? On holiday, last year
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was about same age as me (early-mid 20s), she was quite tall for a Spanish lass, she had nice tanned/brownish skin, as is typical for Spaniards, she was very beautiful, especially in that dress, I met her in a bar.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was heart struck by her, and I plucked up the courage to try out my Spanish on her. I asked her if she fancied a drink, thankfully she accepted, and we then chatted for a bit before I professed my love for her, albeit sheepishly. I don’t have much confidence, but I was a bit tipsy, I think she was naturally a bit surprised, but she found it cute nonetheless, both what I said (that I loved her and she was as beautiful as the stars at night), and how I said it (a bit shyly, but with identifiable passion under the surface of my shyness). She invited me over to her place, and my heart leapt.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After getting to her place it was all dark, being about 11PM, she switched on a table lamp, rather the big light. I believe she was thinking that a soft light would help the passionate atmosphere, she then underdressed to her bra and pants as I watched. We then wrapped our arms around each other and began kissing passionately, in between kisses she whispered romantic, passionate Spanish phrases in my ear. Wow, it raised the romance and passion levels dramatically, let’s just say that there is a reason why Spanish is considered one of the sexiest languages on the planet. Eventually, I whispered, “Let’s go to bed” (in Spanish) in her ear, she agreed, and we went to her bed, doing the missionary position. We were practically shouting romantic Spanish phrases, and one of the things she was saying was “I want a baby!”, I would later learn that she meant this. When we were done, I thanked her greatly for an amazing night, and was about to return to the hotel when she asked me to stay the night, I happily agreed, and we spent the rest of the night in each others arms.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I returned to the hotel the morning after, we often saw each other for the rest of the holiday and we chatted like old friends. After going home I did miss her, and I returned this year and met her again. This time she had a baby girl, our child, I am now the proud father to an Anglo-Spanish lass.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, I was feeling lonely, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My closest friends were a bit jealous, but also happy for me. At the same time, I took my closest friend on holiday with me this year and he saw my new daughter, and he was happy for me.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? That I wasn’t rejected, which would’ve seriously damaged my already low confidence. Also, the lass I spent the night with, the romantic Spanish phrases, and my daughter were all the best things about this hookup as well.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That I can’t see her and my daughter more.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not particularly
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It gave me a daughter and a beloved of my own, so it’s not all bad.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Good place to share stories
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