I Had Sex with My Crush

by Hasbi

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Kuala Lumpur
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Own business
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Muslim
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? No

I Had Sex with My Crush

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was my crush and study-buddy since we were in school together. We never had sex before this.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We lost contact for a few years but eventually reconnected. Before we met up again, I would masturbate to her photos.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? One night, she came over to hang out at my place and I tried to convince her to stay the night. Eventually, I just asked her if she wanted to have sex with me as a one-night stand. She agreed and we began kissing passionately. She moved down to give me a blowjob, I returned the favor for her, and then we had sex. She kept her hijab on the whole time.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I want to marry her but she is still deciding if she wants a relationship or not

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Friends

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? She knows how to make men happy

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? She didn’t give me an answer until now

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Love makes a sex better in my opinion

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? She can squirt

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Sex makes us healthier

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a good way to do a research on hookups and gather information

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!