What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Adelaide
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? TV presenter
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
In a Kyoto Temple
How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 years
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Jason was a slim white Australian guy, very cute. I was backpacking in Japan. We met in a bar in Kyoto. I was there with my friend Helen. We had a few drinks and were talking with a group of Australians who were in the bar. There were several men in the group. I was talking to Jason and he was trying to convince us to come to a nightclub and party with them. I said to him, “but will I have somewhere to sleep”. Hint hint. I was really wanting to have sex that night and he was cute. What can i say.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After we went to the nightclub and did some dancing, Jason and I went to get some food at a restaurant. He made a move on me there, and we kissed. After we left the restaurant we were walking, and we ended up walking through one of the Kyoto temple gardens, so it all happened there. It was the early hours so not many people around
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started kissing on the steps of the temple, and we were getting pretty hot. I had a loose silk one-piece dress on and panties, and that was it. He was rubbing my pussy through my panties and I was rubbing his cock through his jeans. Then he pulled off my dress and started kissing my tits. That really got me going so I undid his belt, pulled down his jeans and started sucking his cock. After a bit of that he pulled off his T-shirt and laid it on the ground. I laid on the T-shirt and he fucked me missionary style until he came.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We got dressed and walked to his hotel. We tried to sleep a bit but we were too drunk and wired. Then at 6 am he walked me to the train station, where I caught a train back to my hotel. My friend Helen was pretty pissed off when she heard what I got up to (coz she missed out).
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Intoxication, To feel more desirable
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Helen and some friends in Australia. They thought it was pretty cool.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? SEX
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? it didn’t last long enough
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I had a boyfriend in Australia when this happened. But the relationship was on the rocks so I didn’t feel bad about what happened.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I had a fair bit of casual sex before I married. I really enjoyed the thrill of it. Just before you know whether it is going to be reciprocated or not. It is a massive buzz. Being with a stranger and knowing that you might be fucking them in a few minutes, if you play things the right way.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Very cool
You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!