Insanity: Hookup With The Gym Junkie

by  Chloe

Gender: Female
Age: 19
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Current location: Minnesota
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Wiccan
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Pansexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 11
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Hookup With The Gym Junkie

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3-4 months ago

How would you best classify this hookup? Booty Call

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I knew them relatively well. We talked a lot at the gym. We worked out together a couple times and did the Insanity workout. We were both interested in each other but were seeing other people.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After I broke up with my boyfriend at the time, I went out to a party. I ran into him and we started dancing. I asked my friends to not let me go home with him just in case I made the wrong decision, but they didn’t hold me back. He hung out with me for a while at the party and we walked around campus. We were very into each other but I wanted to wait to have sex until the next day. The next day he texted me and asked me to meet up at his dorm, so I headed over there and we hooked up.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We had vaginal sex and I performed oral sex on him. I felt good about it. I felt like we were very giving towards each other and we communicated very clearly. We asked each other before switching to new positions and we made sure we used protection.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I did not have an orgasm, but he did.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We did not discuss any STI history beforehand, but we used a condom and I was taking birth control.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I had this hookup because it had been a long time since I had a pleasurable hookup. The boyfriend that I had recently broken up with at the time was not a very good lover and I wanted something fun and something that got me out of the relationship mindset.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt wrong after the hookup. I knew it was a one-nighter, but I was hoping he would text me like normal. He didn’t text me right away and when he finally did, he said it was definitely a “One-time thing.” The next day he complained he had a weird rash and asked me if I had any STIs. I was mad at this just because he had opportunities to ask me in person and he texted me instead. At the time I was very pissed. Now I feel indifferent towards them.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to a few friends of mine and they asked me why I did it. They also called him a “douche canoe” due to the aftermath.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was consensual on both parts. This is why I wanted to wait a day, to make sure it was what we both wanted.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Even though it ended badly, no. It was something I wanted to do for a long time.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing about this hookup is that it helped me open up to my college friends about how I think I might have a sex addiction. This hookup made me realize that sometimes I do lose control and give into the moment because I asked my friends to not allow me to sleep with him because I knew it would end badly but I still slept with him anyways. Now, when I am interested in someone, I still have these behaviors of not being able to stop myself, but I am more conscious of it and I know who will keep me from making poor choices.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? During the hookup, he was still in a relationship, but he told me it was an open relationship and that it was totally acceptable to have people on the side.

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