Instant One-Night Stand

by Paul

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Paris
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? No
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Instant One-Night Stand

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 weeks ago

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a german girl about 1m65, brown hair, beautiful blue eyes, not thick but just enough to be luscious. She was 23 years old.
We met in youth hostel bar. This is a place where you can talk with everybody so we first intercact just by saying “hi”.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was doing an internship in an other country for 3 months. This was April 30 which is a special day here. I did not have to work the next day so I decided to party with some friends of France.
We first had a few drinks in my apartment then move on to the bar we liked to go. This was a pretty good place because I knew I could meet a lot of cool foreigners.

Just arrived, my friends and I continued to have some beers, talking around with many people. Then I saw this two beautiful German girls which came to talk with me. There were a tall one and a shorter one. At the beginning I was thinking the tallest one looked better.
We exchanged a few basics words like “where are you from ?”, “what are you doing here ?” for about 5 minutes. Not more, after I just talked to other people.

Then the waiters invited us to go to an other bar, so everybody followed.
I entered the new bar with my friends and went to the balcony to smoke a cigarette. At this moment the short German girl came, we talked again for about 1 or 2 minutes. I was drunk and her too, I instantly felt that she was into me. So I just did body language and kissed her. It was nice but I did not know her very much.

Just after, we danced a little bit and then I asked her if she wanted to go with me to an other bar (in fact I just wanted to go to a hotel to have sex) and she said yes. We walked in the street talking a bit more and turning on each other and went in a hotel, she did not seem chocked or nothing.
We get in the room, I kissed her and ask if she had condom because I did not have any. She said that no. So I told her to wait in the room and that i was going to by some.

At the lobby of the hostel, I asked the girl who gave me the keys of the room if she had some condom (it was a love hotel so I supposed they sell some) but she said no …
Just behind me was a girl, without a lot clothes on. I assume she was a prostitute. She was really nice and accompanied me to a nearby store and choose the condoms for me.
I get back quickly in the room and the girl was still waiting for me. Then we started.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We kissed each other for about 2 minutes, then I started putting out her clothes while she was doing the same to me. I licked her pussy first and then fingered her at the same time. Looked like she was getting pleased because she was going up her pelvis and moaning while I was doing my job. Then she got up and started giving me a blowjob. I was really liking it but she did not do it for a long time. After this, I took a first condom and started to penetrate her in sensual missionary style. I was really excited so I cum in a few minutes, but it did not mean I was done. I just pulled out my penis and fingered her again and again. A few minutes later, my cock was hard again and she blew me just before I wore another condom. Then we fucked hard for about an hour, she bled a little bit but not that enough for us to stop. We did all kind of position like doggy style, her on me (she moved her ass really good), and me on her putting her legs around my neck and stimulating her clitoris while I was fucking her.
While changing position, she told me that she already cum but I wanted to continue. So she put herself in doggy style and I penetrate her the fastest I could to be able to cum.
During this moment, I was watching her anus and wanted hard to put my dick inside, so I started putting my thumb in (going slowly with my penis again) but because she told me she was kind of done, I did not do it for a long time and I finally imagined my girlfriend while fucking hard the other girl to be able to cum quickly.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now?
After this, she wanted to make a hug in the bed but I already have my girlfriend who I love so I wasn’t really ok for this. We starting laying and beeing close of each other but hopefully, I wanted to go to the toilet so I went and then look at my phone and saw that my friends where calling me to go home.
I told her, we put back our clothes and then we went to her hotel where I let her sleep and I finaly went home. I did not took her phone number or nothing.

The day before, I was feeling guilty so I told it to my girlfriend but she told me it was OK because it was only sex and no feelings.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To my friends and my girlfriend. My friends where happy for me and my girlfriend wasn’t so hurt

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Really easy, not a lot of conversation and straight forward sex.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Her wanting affection that I did not want to give

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, there is a big difference between sex and feelings.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? People are seeing it like this is awkward, but it’s not and I think people would be happier if they try it and just enjoy their lives.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Really nice, it makes me dream

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