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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Consultant
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? James was another intern that I had met three days ago in orientation. He was Canadian. He was around 5’11, with blonde/light brown hair and blue eyes, and a slim but strong body. He was the life of the party and loved making people laugh. He dressed very smart and metrosexual, and was very smart.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had orientation in Chicago for the company I was interning for. We would sit in a room from 9-5 and receive training, and then go out for events (dinner/drinks) at night. James would message me on the company’s chat platform, and tease me in the room. At night, we were in the same circle of friends and would hang out together. One night, we went to a speakeasy for someone’s birthday. We had been flirting all week, and this was our last night together. He leaned over and bought me a drink at the bar, and as I was a little tipsy, brushed my hand against his cock. He widened his eyes at me and said “Woah, slow down there” playfully. After we left the speakeasy, I was pretty tipsy, and he stopped me in the lobby of the hotel while the rest of the interns went upstairs. “Do you have a boyfriend?” he asked. I am in an open relationship with a girl that lives in London, and we are open about hooking up with other people. But I thought it best to not tell him. I said no.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We went upstairs to my hotel room. I laid down on the bed and we started making out. It was nearly 3 am and I was pretty tipsy. He pulled my dress off and I took his shirt off. We kept kissing as he undid my bra, cupped my breasts, and started kissing down my neck. I was so wet already as I took off his pants and then his tight briefs. His dick was huge and he was really hard. “You like that baby?” he asked. I took his dick in my mouth and gave him head for a few minutes as he moaned, but then he pushed me back on the bed and reached into my underwear. I was dripping wet. “What do you want?” he asked me. “You,” I said, breathlessly. He took my underwear off and opened a condom. Before I knew it he was inside of me, and he grabbed my legs and held them over my head as he pumped in and out. He had left me a few hickeys and slapped my ass, so I knew he liked it rough. He choked me a little bit as he pounded my pussy, and a few minutes later, he stood up, went into the bathroom, and got a glass of water. He poured it all over my body so that I was dripping wet, and then entered me again. This time, he came fast and hard. As he grunted and pulled out of me, I was satisfied and exhausted even though I didn’t come. He got dressed, we joked around a bit, and then he left.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We smiled across the room at each other the next day, but we left around midday, so we didn’t interact much. We saw each other again a few weeks later, but I was not in the mood to hook up again. I am very much in love with my girlfriend, so it was just to relieve sexual frustration. I wish he would’ve paid more attention to me and made me come, but it was still good.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Intoxication, To feel more confident, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends and my girlfriend. My friends were enthusiastic. My girlfriend knows that it’s because we are extremely long distance and was fine with it.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The kinky sex
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not coming
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. It was my first one night stand and I really enjoyed it. I think I will seek out more of them in the future.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it’s great and everyone should experience it.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Awesome for society!
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