It Was Time



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 41
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

It Was Time

How long ago did this hookup happen? 16 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a good looking member of a sports club who was mates with my friends. He was fun but I didn’t think much about him.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was a virgin who was horny, we were at a club dancing, he kissed me and then put his hand up my skirt and started fingering me. I asked him if he wanted to come home with me.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We made out in the taxi some more and as soon as we got into my house I pulled his pants off and started to blow him. He wasn’t very big, which was both disappointing and a relief at the same time. After about 5 minutes he pushed me onto the bed and pulled my knickers off, complimenting me on my trimmed pussy, before going down on me. He was pretty good and it was lots of fun, but I was on a mission so made him stop and put on a condom. I climbed on top and guided him in. We fucked like this for a while, with him playing with my tits and telling me how sexy and small they were. Then he said he wanted me doggie style so he could watch my ass which he really liked. I remember this being fantastic, he was going as deep as he could and telling me how sexy my ass was and he would reach around and squeeze my tits. Finally, he said he wanted me on my back and he hammered me this way until he came hard. After he had pulled out we laughed at how great it was and just laid there panting. He then got dressed and left which suited me fine.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I found out a few days later that he had gone back to the club and told my friends that he had shagged me and one of them told him it was my first time which pissed me off. I also found out he had a girlfriend so that was a double whammy. Next time I saw him he told me he was glad to have been my first, I told him it hardly counted since the penetration was so shallow.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A friend told me what he had said and that someone else had told him I was a virgin, but that was it.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He was lots of fun and had lots of energy.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He blabbed and then found out the big news. I also felt bad for his gf.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It made me wonder why I had waited so long.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It was overall pretty good for a first time from what I’ve heard.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I wish I’d had more.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s great, but makes me wish I had more experiences.

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