Just A Hookup



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? Africa
What country and/or city do you live in? South Africa
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 11
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Just A Hookup

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2015

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Phil and I went to high school together. Average height, a little on the plus size, caramel skin and very charming. In high school, we were nothing more than acquaintances. I never had any fantasies about him, he was just another boy from class. The hookup happened 4 years post high school, we were both in college. Same city, different colleges.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were at a party hosted by my friend and her housemates. I saw Phil and went to say hi. We chatted for a bit but then I left him and went back to mingling with my buddies and dancing.
Later in the night, I learned that his house was just across the street from the party house. We stood in a dark corner and started talking. Having been single for more than three months, I was ready for some action. I pulled him closer to my face and planted my lips on his. They were so soft I felt like I was kissing marshmallows. He tasted like beer and I loved it. We kissed for a long time. He was a good kisser and I was enjoying every second of it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end?  I felt my panties getting moist and I pulled back. I looked at him and asked if he wanted to take things further. I asked him because he had a girlfriend at the time and I didn’t want him feeling like I was throwing myself at him. He said he wanted to eat me out and fuck me hard. I unbuckled my belt, unzipped my pants, and told him to do what he wanted to do.
He made me suck on his fingers before he played with my clit. The second he placed his fingers on my clit, I melted. He then proceeded to finger me like he was in a mine digging for gold. It was mind-blowing how good he was with his fingers. He added a third finger and the pleasure doubled. He fucked me with his fingers until I orgasmed.
I told him I wanted his dick inside me. He asked if I was okay with going to his house and I told him yes. We went to his house and before he locked the door, he pinned me against it and kissed me hungrily. I pulled his pants down and he did the same with mine. Then I started rubbing his dick on my clit. I started moaning and I felt him getting harder. I couldn’t wait anymore so I just took his hard wood and shoved it inside my vagina. He was pounding my walls so it felt like I was about to explode. He came (inside me) three minutes later and I was disappointed because I wasn’t even close to coming.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After he came, we slept. The next morning he woke me up with pleasurable oral sex. He ate me out like his life depended on it. Even though it was great, I didn’t orgasm.
We got up, got dressed and he walked me to my friend’s house.
I had zero expectations and I have no feelings towards him now.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends. Some judged me but others were whatever about it.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I needed to get laid after three months of no action and he did the job.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not at all.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? If adults consent to sexual activity, regardless of the relationship, that is their business and people should learn to keep their judgemental comments to themselves.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love it!

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