What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 37
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? Two Years Ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Final night in Denmark on holiday with friends. Stopped in for a night cap at a bar. There were two men at the bar who were Hispanic and one was very attractive and reminded me of a former lover. We just casually engaged in conversation and joined them at another bar with more friends. His physique was muscular and his skin color and tone was beautiful with an appreciation of edgy style and punk music. He was an outlier in the crowd.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? As we drank more, the mutual attraction for each other emerged. We engaged in light kissing and by the time we were at the next bar-he was able to place his fingers down my panties and finger my pussy under the table. There was no planning but was amazing the initial chemistry and access to each other’s bodies- he then joined me at our rental home.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? During the hook up he met my friends and we had a couple of drinks. We then moved to my sleeping area and engaged in oral sex and sucked his cock hard. He was very intrigued with my ass and he moved between licking my pussy and asshole and ensuring to finger both holes and was aggressively sucking my tits and pulling my hair. Pleasurably painful per his request he then began heavily eating my ass and fucked my ass until orgasm for both of us and he then fucked my pussy until another orgasm. Upon showering and sleeping a couple hours we then awoke and continued anal and pussy fucking with me sucking his dick between each time he moved from my pussy to ass. The sex was amazing. The man was coy and treated me like a woman he wanted to fuck and use for his pleasure. Initially, he hoped we could invite his friend along but was ok with just us noting he really wanted anal and rough sex. From the beginning, he had his fingers inside of me noting he wanted to penetrate, bite and suck for his own pleasure. The sex was so good and there was no interest on my end of connecting emotionally nor his-he used me for his own pleasure. My friends were interested in who he was as a Hispanic many living in Denmark, I just wanted to fuck. He was everything that was
Physically attractive in a man and satisfied me sexually beyond. After the final fuck, he dressed quickly as he was late for work and had to catch a plane. Beyond the fucking everything else is a blur.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the experience was over…didn’t really ever think of him as a person again.
Think of the sex and pleasure frequently. But can’t remember his name
This is the only time in my life truly had casual sex and exceeded every expectation.
For some reason, my friend acquired his email address and asked if we had connected and kept in case the need arises but that’s never happened.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Plan B / Emergency contraception
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication, Submission / Relinquishing power
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My fellow roommates. They were supportive and understood what was driving me -thinking sleeping with him helped heal an old wound and from a lover that never had closure. They were in the vicinity to ensure safety.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex was probably the best I’ve ever had. Dirty, rough and super exciting. Allowed me to move on from an old hurt.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The bruises the next day but even those didn’t bother me so bad. It was consensual. Just having to hide them as would be hurtful to my husband. As this sex with this man isn’t something I’d achieve in our relationship. The attraction was different and only sexual.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? This was my only one night stand ever-safe and easy. Perfect. No attachment. No one got hurt and everyone was clear. My husband and myself were not in a good spot with thinking of separating because of many issues-needed to feed my desire and really get over someone from a long time ago who would never give me his best sex. This was really a healthy move for me.
Proud of myself
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Sad this won’t happen again as the sex was fabulous and circumstances perfect.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Not everything is perfect. No relationship is
perfect and it’s ok to know not all sex is always about forever. But know what you can handle and with who. Be honest with yourself and others about why you are in.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? An exciting area of work.
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