“Let’s Have Drinks Tonight”

by Liana

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Armenia
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Relationships that are close to a break-up
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

“Let’s Have Drinks Tonight”

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I have been traveling in Italy that summer, and in one of the cities, while walking around in the evening three different guys, who were all waiters in different restaurants, asked me out to have some drinks. I said that I will be back when they close the restaurant, to two of them. I was planning to go meet the second guy, but I was totally lost in the small Italian streets and ended up by the restaurant of the first guy. He asked me to sit and wait. We talked a bit, discussed our backgrounds and how each of us ended up Italy.
I talked a bit about Armenia, how conservative it is and how relationships are in Armenia. We discussed it, and he found out that I was a virgin, which was unbelievable for him.
He was a Croatian guy, he moved to Italy to work, and would go back home to visit his family in winter. He was a bit shorter than me, with blonde hair and green eyes.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After his work was done, we went to a bar, which was really crowded and loud music was playing. The bar was small, but it had a lot of seating on some piazza. When we went to order the drink he kissed me. That was my first kiss. It felt really good, then he went on to touch my butt…
We had a conversation for a long time, my phone was off so I was unaware of the time. The hostel where I stopped was quite far away, and the guy was telling me it won’t be safe for me to go there at this time. He was asking me to go over to his place, as he wanted to be with me, and couldn’t say bye just yet. I was saying no, as I was not prepared to have sex with him, and I knew that was inevitable, were I to spend a night at his place. We kissed a lot and then when we were done with our “Aperol Spritz”-s, he went and got us more. But we didn’t stay. We went to the farther part of the palazzo and then we kissed and his hand in my underwear. I tried to stop him, but I actually enjoyed his touches so I let him do it. In no time we were sitting on the ground, kissing and him fingering me. It was probably around 3 in the morning, I was getting really cold, so I agreed to go to his place, but telling him we were not to have sex as I couldn’t lose my virginity.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we were at his place, we were in bed, I was falling asleep, but he took off my clothes and went down on me. He gave me oral sex and then he asked me if I wanted to return the favor. I kind of felt obliged to do that. So I gave a BJ, by that time he was continually telling me that he didn’t believe it was my first time. He finished in my mouth. We rested a little bit, and then I almost fell asleep, when he woke me up, telling that he wants to enjoy every minute of our night together. He got on top of me and at first, he was just rubbing his penis on my clitoris, he wanted to go inside but I forbade it, as I didn’t want to “lose my virginity” as well as we were not using condoms, so it could have resulted in pregnancy. He convinced me to have anal sex. We did it. We were not using lube, so it was really painful and hardly enjoyable. After a while, he again was on me, he went down again, and then he was on me, his penis rubbing against my clitoris. Then I gave him another blowjob he finished again and then we both fell asleep. In the morning I had to leave, so I got up quite early and left him kissing goodbye.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterward, he messaged me. Asking me to come back to the city so that we could spend more time together. I said that I was not coming back. He messaged me a couple more times later on, but I asked him to stop doing that, as I was really afraid for anyone to find out about that at home.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, He said that he was “clean”. And we didn’t have vaginal sex to prevent pregnancies.

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Intoxication, To cheer myself up, I actually wanted to hang out, but sex was not something I wanted.

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told only one friend at the time. Telling how much I regretted it and how bad I felt. She tried to calm me down, and explain that there was nothing wrong with it.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? This was my first intercourse, and I would have preferred it to be with someone I had feelings for and relationships.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Gaining experience.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not being emotionally ready

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, now I believe that casual sex is acceptable, and I realize that one can’t live without sex, and that is needed.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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