Mistaken Identity



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Dorset, England
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Personal Assistant
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Open to new experiences, Curious
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Mistaken Identity

How long ago did this hookup happen? A few weeks ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is a doctor at the local surgery, way older than me – mid 50’s but tall, clean shaven, broad shoulders, and he looks like he keeps himself in good shape. I wouldn’t normally find a man of his age attractive, but he has the same physical traits as my current partner (tall, broad, handsome), but obviously, 30 years older. I have been going to this surgery on and off for about a year, both for myself and with my client (i’m a PA for an elderly business owner). When I’ve seen him at the surgery, he always compliments me, and we have a good amount of banter. I work in a small town, close to the sea, and I spend a lot of my downtime walking along the beach. It turns out that my doctor lives on the other side of the beach I walk along. I’ve seen him out walking his dog or having a coffee at the beach cafe a few times. I avoided eye contact each time I spotted him with because I didn’t want him to feel uncomfortable seeing a patient out of work. Before the hookup, I felt physically attracted to him and appreciated him remembering small details of our interactions and things I’d told him.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hookup began in his office at the surgery he works at. I had come in to get a few things signed off before I went back to work after a period of sickness. He complimented my outfit and commented that he’d seen me a few times at the beach. He also complimented my body (I’d been hitting the gym and had lost some weight, and toned up). When I like a guy, my brain normally turns to mush, but I held my own, threw a few flirty comments back at him and I think he was surprised because I’m a lot younger than him, and he didn’t really expect me to appreciate a man of his age. I’m always conscious of the time when I come in to see him because he has other patients, but he never seems to be in a hurry and we chat away for 20 or 30 minutes. No planning was involved with the hookup, I think that him realizing that I found him attractive meant that he could throw caution to the wind.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I had on a supportive walking boot (had broken my ankle a few months ago). He needed to examine my ankle to see if I was fit to go back to work. He asked me to get on the edge of the examination bed. I’m quite short, so he held my arm as I hopped on the bed and I purposely rested my hand on his chest as he helped me onto the bed. I was wearing a dress, which I had to lift up. He crouched down in front of me and undid the velcro straps of my boot really slowly and carefully. He examined my ankle, asked me to lay back and do some movements to determine the flexibility. My dress moved upwards and my upper thigh was exposed. He didn’t flinch, but he smiled and so did I. I sat back up and he held my waist as I hopped off the bed. He took a really deep breath, and we didn’t move from the position we were in – him holding my waist to support me. I hate the awkward moments before a man plucks up the courage to make a move, so I put my hand on his chest and smiled. He lifted me back onto the exam bed and kissed me a few times. I held back because I get really in the moment and want to do everything at once. I opened my legs and wrapped them around him. He started kissing my thigh, moved my dress up and rubbed between my legs. He came back up to kiss me and started rubbing my clit. I was really wet and he put his fingers inside me and started massaging my g-spot. It felt amazing and I wanted him to fuck me right there and then. I started to whimper and he kissed me and kept going faster with his fingers. I came really hard with him looking me straight in the face and he smiled, kissed me a few more times and then went to the sink and washed his hands. I got off the table and got my stuff together. He kissed me again before I left.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup, I went back to work the next day. I didn’t walk up past his part of the beach for a few days – I didn’t want any awkward meetings. I haven’t seen him since and I don’t really have any expectations. I feel really cautious about seeing him again because I don’t want him to feel like his job is in jeopardy seeing as he is my doctor. I will probably have to see him again, and would 100% want to be intimate with him, but I probably need to reassure him that he didn’t take advantage of me/not to worry about anyone finding out.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I haven’t told anyone about the hookup.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I didn’t expect it to happen – we are from different walks of life, but the attraction was undoubted and he felt really good, and he made me cum in record time. It felt amazing.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I wanted more, but it was the wrong place and time.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It’s made me more open to casual experiences.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think its a great project, I’m glad I discovered it myself!

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