My First Gay Experience



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 34
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Prescott, AZ
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Security
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Open
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

My First Gay Experience

How long ago did this hookup happen? 16

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? It was an older guy in his 40’s. I had just met him at a bar that night, so no previous hookups, no feelings.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It began at the bar, and we were drinking. There was no planning involved. He instigated it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He pulled my cock out of my pants and began sucking me. I was nervous and excited. I was nervous because I’ve never messed around with another guy before and my buddy was passed out on the guy’s couch, so I was afraid of getting caught. I was also excited about the taboo of having a guy suck my dick. It felt great, he was really good at sucking dick. He focused on my dick, without talking. I came in his mouth and he spat it in a towel.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? My buddy and I went home. I was embarrassed and worried about anyone finding out. I had no expectations and no feelings afterward.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened.

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have

How intoxicated were you? A small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Getting my cock sucked by a man.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He spit.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It allowed me to open up towards sex with men.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? None

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think sex is just sex. As long as you are safe, you should be able to have sex with whomever you wish. Society should be more open about sex (extramarital sex, group sex, swinging, mmf, mfm, fmf, ffm, mm, mmm).

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Cool

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