My First One Night Stand



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United states
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Business
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Jewish
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

My First One Night Stand

How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met her on an online dating app. We talked for a week and then decided to meet up in person. She was more attractive than I thought from her pictures. I did not think anything would come of it that night but we agreed to meet at a bar for a drink.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had talked about sex in general in the getting to know each other stage of talking online but neither of us indicated that was what we expected of the night. I had gotten out of a fairly long relationship with a girlfriend not that long before and had gone on several dates with people. The week before a casual string of dates with a girl I liked ended but I was determined to move on quickly. This date went very well, and one drink in the afternoon turned into dinner and more drinks.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After being at the bar for a while and ordering food we decided to go to another bar. As we were walking there I decided to go in for a kiss. She was pleasantly surprised but for a few block walk we made out at the red lights. After being in the second bar for a little I asked if she wanted to go back somewhere quieter, knowing her apartment was close by. She paused for a little and said if we did not to expect anything, which I was totally fine with. We went back and immediately started making out on her couch. After a few minute she decided we would be more comfortable in her room on her bed, but still not to expect anything. Things got a little more heated here and hands started to wander. I asked her if she wanted to go further and she took a little while to think, while we kept hooking up. Then she asked if I had a condom, which I did. She kept thinking as we kept hooking up. Finally she said “fuck it get the condom” I was surprised but happily obliged. She then put the condom on me and got right on top. She rode me for a while which was great. She obviously knew what she was doing. After a little while I got on top, but she had been so good that I finished quicker than I wanted to.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? She had a friend coming over so I left that night. I was hoping this was the start of something more serious but after meeting one more time she decided we went to fast and she ended it. I don’t regret the evening but I do wish it had lasted longer than the one night.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few female friends who were happy I had a fun night after being in a relationship with subpar sex for a while.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was one of the most fun sexual experiences i’ve ever had.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It was only the one night and might have ended the chances for something more

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It was one of my first full blown experiences in casual sex and I wish I had more when I was younger.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I wish I had more when I was younger.

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