My first ONS

by Anna

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? US
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 17
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

My first ONS

How long ago did this hookup happen? A year

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was handsome. Had brown hair and eyes and a short beard, and he was probably 5’9 or 10 and not lanky. He was in decent shape, didn’t have defined muscles but a nice chest.

We met that night and I liked him before we talked.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was at a bar and I went to the bar with the explicit hope of going home with a guy or girl to get fucked. He talked to me first. We talked for a while about pretty tame/lame stuff. Eventually I told him straight up that if he was looking to get lucky I was his lady. He fumbled before asking if I was serious and I confirmed when I put his hand on my inner thigh. I could tell he wanted to pull me away immediately but he tried to play it cool and continued casually for a short while even after he paid

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Oral, vaginal, cumshots. We used condoms because we had just met after all but I let him cum on me. I felt extremely turned on on my body was so hot. The fact that a man I barely knew had his penis in me made sex all the more thrilling and satisfying to me. He was very attentive and a great fuck. During the fucking, we dirty talked a lot. I threw in some stuff about how hot it was that we were fucking after just having met

We fucked to 3 of his orgasms over the course of 3 hours with breaks in between. We did a couple of positions… missionary, missionary with my legs up, different forms of doggy, laying on my side, etc. He ate me out repeatedly and because I cum easily he got me to 6 orgasms. He wanted to build himself up so he’d fuck me for 5 minutes and then eat or finger me for a while and each session lasted around a 25 minutes before he’d cum. I let him cum on different parts of my body because I love it. He came on my tits, belly, and ass and it was hot. He had a moderate initial load which I asked him about beforehand so he could use it on my favorite spot; my tits/nipples. The second went on my belly and it was less for obvious reasons and whatever he had left went on my ass after the final bout of wild doggy style.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I left his apartment because I wanted to have a one night stand, even though I largely regret not becoming FWBs with him and not fucking him again. It was a test for myself and I wanted to see it through and see how I felt about a one night stand.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, IUD (Intrauterine device)

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I only told my friend with whom I often talk about sex. Therefore she was happy I got laid lol.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? That I had a great night of bomb ass sex with a hot guy

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That I never had bomb ass sex with this guy again

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I’ve always had this weird fetish I guess for sleeping with different people and it eventually got even more intense with a desire to have sex with someone I barely knew. It was great sex but even if it had been average sex I think it would’ve turned me on just as much. This was my first one night stand and since then I’ve had 3, so, yes, it changed my outlook into liking one night stands.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? idk lol
I’m glad I was lucky to have a great fuck on my first ONS!

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’ve been having casual sex since I was 19, interspersed with a few relationships. I love it! I mean like everyone I love fucking but I’m personally even more turned on by uncommitted sex with different people. I’ve had various flings and FWBs and now four one night stands and at this point, I don’t even know if I want monogamous relationships anymore.

Almost everyone wants sex. Mostly a lot. I think casual sex is great for society and I think people should do it more. It would definitely solve a lot of sexual frustration and tension. The less people are hung up on sex the better

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? A great way to see the interesting experiences people have had and the way they came about.

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