My Little Ethnic Stereotype



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 41
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 14
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

My Little Ethnic Stereotype

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Kim was a pretty Filipina woman in her late 20s. She was short with brown hair, a pretty smile, and a toned, smooth body. I was traveling for work in the U.S.A. territory, Guam. I was there for a week. We connected on Tinder at the beginning of the week and had exchanged a few brief messages along the lines of “how are you?” or “how was your day?” but nothing flirty or sexual.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was my last night on the island before flying back to the mainland. I had not had time to see Kim because of my work schedule. I was also trying (unsuccessfully) to hook up with this cute Czech woman named Ana that I met on the beach. I sent Kim a message that night to apologize for not getting to take her out. I hit send but then remembered an article I had read about a guy who found Filipina women to be really into casual sex. It had seemed to me like a bad ethnic stereotype, but with nothing to lose, I sent an addendum to the message saying “Unless you want to come and spend the night with me.” I didn’t hear anything for an hour and was about to go to sleep when she messaged back yes.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I went to her apartment to pick her up and took her back to my hotel room. We talked on the balcony for about 5 or 10 minutes before going in and sitting on the bed. She seemed nervous and told me she had never been with a white man before. We kissed and took off each other’s clothes. She had a really firm, tanned body with a great butt, small perky breasts, and she was shaved. We continued to make out, but it was very late, and we were both tired. Eventually we fell asleep. She told me to wake her at 5 am so I could drive her home. I set the alarm for 4:30 and we when we woke up we started making out again. She gave me a blowjob, and we had sex. It had been more than seven months since I had gotten laid (I am in a sexless marriage and I only have sex through random hookups on work trips), so I didn’t last very long, unfortunately. We got dressed and I drove her home

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was a big ego boost for me to hook up with such a young, attractive woman with very little effort. I felt guilty that I didn’t last longer and that I didn’t give her an orgasm. We have kept in contact through social media, and I would be happy to see her again, but we live on opposite sides of the world.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), I was feeling lonely

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one. I have to keep my escapades quiet.

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Inviting an attractive, younger woman over for sex without much other conversation and having her accept

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not lasting longer

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It made me want more experiences like this

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We were both lonely.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it should be easier for lonely people to seek each other out for hookups. Even though it was just one night, she holds a special place in my heart and I in hers

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It inspires me to find physical connections with people more often.

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