What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 38
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Financial
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? maybe a little bicurious
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? around 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? a couple months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I live in a condo and on occasion, I would run into this younger black gentleman around the building who lived 3 floors above me. I’d see him mostly in the parking garage, the elevator, or laundry room. He’s about 6’0″ tall, athletic, and attractive. It started off as a friendly “hello, how are you” situation. Eventually, he started flirting with me. I honestly wasn’t that interested in him and ignored it. At times I even found it annoying. I figured he just saw me as a short, bbw that was an easy lay.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? One Friday night after a pretty bad week at work, I stopped at the store to get a 6 pack of beer. I was pulling into my parking garage and he pulled in just before me. I tried to stall getting my things out of my car because I wasn’t really in the mood to deal with him. But he waited for me, holding the door. The first thing he said was some comment about the beer and asked what my plans for the evening were. I said to have a drink or two and relax. He started to say something about if I were his woman but then someone else got into the elevator. Nothing else was said between us for the rest of the time but, as the doors opened on my floor, something came over me and I didn’t get off. As the door was closing he asked if I was getting off and I said no. He, of course, asked why and I replied, “since it seems you’re so determined to, I’m going to give in and let you fuck me”. I couldn’t believe I said that, I felt a cold chill go through me. Of course, he was excited and told me that I was in for some amazing sex.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We got to his place and I took a can of my beer, and offered him one, which he declined. I was walking around his place and I was looking out the window when he came up from behind me. I didn’t really notice him at first, but he started rubbing my ass, with a couple slaps. He started to close the blinds and I put my drink down. We started kissing and he started rubbing my breasts. It wasn’t long before he had my shirt and bra off. He commented about how amazing they were which actually made me smile a bit. I took his shirt off, and started thinking to myself, “am I really going through with this, am I actually going to have sex with him just because he bugs me about it so much?” He then started to move me towards the bedroom. As soon as I sat down, he started pulling my pants and panties off. I panicked since I hadn’t had a regular partner in a while I hadn’t shaved in a bit. But I was shocked, he was super happy to see a natural woman and dove in to start eating me out. Any doubts I had about what I was doing were gone, I wasn’t leaving without getting my first bbc. He ate me out for what seemed like forever and I came twice. I’m actually not sure if it was two of just one really long one. Eventually, he stood up and took his pants off to show me at least 8 1/2 to 9″. I started stroking it, getting ready to give him a bj. But he leaned me back, spread my legs open and went right in. We went with missionary for a while, then switched to doggy. A few more thrusts and a slap on my ass and I was having another orgasm. I couldn’t believe how loud I was moaning. Eventually, he finished too and we rested. I was really surprised that he was the type to cuddle and stroke my hair. Usually, it was only my boyfriends that did that kind of thing. I ended up staying the night and we went two more rounds. Including me finally giving him a blowjob.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was actually surprised that it went so well. Initially, I did this because I wanted to get this guy to leave me alone. But deep down I think that with the stress of that week I wanted to hook up with someone. I have a few dating profiles online and had checked them out during the week. In the long run, I guess I figured it was easier because I already kind of knew this guy. I also figured this would be a “Wham, bam, Thank you ma’am” and that I’d be out of there in an hour. We’re still friendly to each other, I enjoyed it so much so that we’ve actually hooked up a couple of times since. Including one time late at night where I saw him on Facebook, told him I was coming up, and ran up the stairs in my nightshirt for a quicky.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Peer pressure, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to my neighbor. She’s a single working mom, we talk a lot of things. She saw me the night I ran up to his place in my nightshirt and had to know where I was coming from. She found it funny because this guy has hooked up with a few women in the building, including her. It was her first bbc also. I wasn’t really upset or surprised.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was a stress reliever. Also, I had been interested in being with a bbc. My best friend had been telling me to try it.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I guess I could say I came across as being a little easy.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nothing sexually. But I did get a little bit a confidence boost about being plus size.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Nothing
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’m very liberal about sex. As long as you are safe, careful, and open about it, you should enjoy it. I’m not saying I would have sex with everyone. But I have found a way to separate my emotions from it in case I meet someone I find attractive and just want to enjoy some time with. I also don’t care if people label a slut for having one nighters or fwbs. A lot of people do it.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I enjoyed reading others experiences. It made me want to open up about my experience. I’m thinking of sharing more.
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