What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 49
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 27 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This happened during my final years in college, 1991.
I was raised in a strict Christian home. My parents were missionaries and I was homeschooled until college. I was blessed to get a scholarship for track and a part time job on campus for extra cash. My roommate & I became friends and she helped me update my wardrobe and introduced me to a guy that I would eventually marry. I met David my junior year and we’ve been together ever since. We started dating and he introduced me to sex by taking my virginity a few months later. We began having sex when our schedules would allow, not often. When we had sex, he would be on top and it didn’t last very long. I wasn’t on birth control at the time so condoms were a must.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was Saturday night and a group of use went to a club. I was wearing a red spaghetti strap BodyCon dress, no bra, red lace thongs & red heels. David was at a table with his friends drinking and having fun. I don’t drink so I hit the dance floor with my girlfriends. The floor was packed sexy guys and a few began grinding me and rubbing my ass. At then end of the night, I was horny and ready for sex.
I drove everyone to the frat house. David had drunk more than normal so I helped him to his room. Once inside, he crawled into bed and went to sleep instantly. I was bummed.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Adam is tall, blonde hair, blue eyes, muscular built and very sexy. He was one of David’s fraternity brothers, stayed in the same house and played lacrosse. He’s cocky, arrogant and a ‘player’. I generally don’t like those type of guys but for some reason I found him attractive.
I knew Adam came home alone so I took off my heels to make no noise and tip toed down to his room. It was unlocked so I slowly opened the door. He had just taken a shower and was wearing a towel around his waist. I was holding my heels over my shoulder and our eyes met. He checked me out with lustful eyes, I tossed my shoes on a pile of cloths and quietly closed the door. He dropped his towel and my eyes went straight to his penis. It was beginning to grow and I could already tell it was bigger & thicker than David’s. No words were spoken, we both knew why I came into his room. We began to kiss and he pulled off my dress and panties. I loved the way he looked at my body with a lustful look. We got on his bed and he positioned me to do 69. I didn’t have much experience with oral at the time so I began licking & sucking the tip of his penis. He was very thick and I couldn’t get much of it in my mouth. I was already horny and had never received oral until this moment. Adam’s tongue was flicking and pressing against my clit. His skills were amazing and I could feel my body release each time he dove his tongue deep inside me.
We began having sex with him positioning me on top. I lined his thick penis up to my entrance and slowly lowered down. He pulled me on top of him and took control. I could feel his thick penis pumping in and out of me at a fast pace. My body shivered as he gave me my first orgasm. He had me bend over the bed. He held my hips and rammed his penis inside me quickly. I was so wet he went in easily. He held my hair as his body was slamming against mine.
He pulled me tight and I had another orgasm. Then I felt is penis swell and pulses of warm sperm began to fill me up. The feeling was amazing and felt like nothing I’d ever felt before. He remained inside me till he went limp.
The bathroom was down the hall and not an option at this time. I used his towel to catch all the sperm he deposited inside me. I gave him a kiss and thanked him. I put my clothes on. According to the time on the clock, we’d been having sex for over an hour. I drove back to my dorm, took a shower and went to bed.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day, David and I had lunch together. He apologized for having too much to drink and passing out too early. He promised it would never happen again. My naughty mind was hoping it would happen again.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Until that moment, I was inexperienced in the bedroom. Adam rocked my world.
He was very experienced and I loved how he could take he lead and position my body at different angles. The entire moment was great.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I wasn’t on birth control so I was very nervous the next few weeks.
Not having sex with Adam again.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I never felt guilt or shame after I had sex with Adam. I think it was because he’s someone I knew.
If I had sex with the random guy that was grinding me at the club, I know I would have felt guilty and maybe confessed. Since I never felt that way, David never found out and we eventually got married.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? David and Adam work at the same firm and I see him a few times a year at company events. He’s married now with a family. I’ve been married to David for 20 years and we also have a family. Each time I see Adam, I can’t shake from my head the night of May 15th.
I’ve been married to David for over 20 years but that night with Adam was the best sex I’d ever had.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I was raised to be monogamous but after experiencing another man, I’m now curious what it would be like if society accepted the fact that people can be friends but also have sexual relationship.
What if I had feelings of guilt and confessed? David and I might not be together today.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I found this site while surfing the net. I was reluctant at first to post my story. However, after reading other stories similar to mine, I decided ‘what the heck, I’m not the only person that’s had a one-night-stand while in a serious relationship.’
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