Not My Girlfriend

by Future Brother In Law

Gender: Male
Age: 54
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Current location: Austin, Texas
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Attorney
Relationship status: Married
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Not My Girlfriend

How long ago did this hookup happen? 30 years

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This is a story of mistaken identity.  I remembered the event perfectly for years.  But it was 18 years after the fact that I learned it was not with the person I thought it was with.  Back in 1986, I was in law school dating my current wife.  We had been friends for years but when I started dating her younger sister, she no longer wanted to be just friends so we started dating.  When I would visit her at her mom’s house, I would sleep in her bedroom and she would sleep in a den just outside while her sister slept in the other bedroom upstairs.  Her mom was really religious, actually, they all were, so my wife would sneak into my bed in the middle of the night and copulate only.  She would wake me up and we would have sex.  That happened every night I ever stayed at that house.  One weekend, her sister was not there, so I took her bedroom.  I had sex with my later wife and all was good.  The next night, her sister was back and rather than play musical rooms, her sister took the middle room.  That night, I was visited again, but this time, unlike every other time I had been visited, I was awoken with a blowjob.  I laid back and enjoyed it for a while and then decided we should 69.  I reached out to touch my later wife and she jumped back as if startled.  I said, “Heh get up here with me, let’s 69.”  Something we had never done before.  In fact, I had never had a blowjob from my wife before.  So she climbed into bed and we had oral sex simultaneously.  I performed cunnilingus and analingus while she performed fellatio. I came in her mouth and she got up and left.
Years later, as in 18 or so, my wife and I were discussing sexual firsts and I said her first blow job on me was the event described above.  She quickly corrected me and said, no, it was X, another memorable moment some 6 years later.  I then described what happened and she said, “Well that wasn’t me, that must have been Gxxxx (her sister)”  She said it as if she already knew of the event which we had never talked about ever before that.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? No planning and I have no real idea why it happened although the sister often acted jealous over the years. The sister clearly instigated it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Oral cunninlingus and analingus by me on the sister.  She sucked me during the oral sex and I came in her mouth.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I did, have no idea about her.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? None.  It was all bareback.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I had no reasons, but I am glad I did have it.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Since I didn’t think it was my now sister in law that I had had sex with, I didn’t think anything of it.  Since I have now learned of it, I look at her differently and she would be the one person I would be willing to hook up with outside of marriage…

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My wife and she seem very nonplussed by the whole story. Like she knew all along. Long before me.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Not exactly but I am okay with it.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was learning that my super religious sister in law had a kinky wild side.  Very cool.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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