Now Or Never!



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? UK
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Bartender
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

Now Or Never!

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 nights ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met him on a dating site. He was more attractive in his photos than in real life. He was tall, thin, with red hair, and a good jawline, but bad teeth. I’m not going to be in the country much longer and just making the most of being away from my home town where everyone knows someone you know and casual sex isn’t so easy. I could use the practice as I’m not very experienced. We went on 2 dates and talked a lot online before we hooked up. He’s a scientist, very smart, easy to talk to, and kind of dorky. I would never have persued it if I didn’t know I was leaving in a month anyway! He really wasn’t my type.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I invited him over to my place. I can’t usually have people here and he can’t usually have people at his so this was a now or never kind of scenario! We had been talking about sex a lot so we both knew it was going to happen! I’m not sure who instigated it, both of us sort of, but we were watching a movie and I guess he made the first move.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were on the couch watching a movie and we started making out. I told him to lay down and took off his pants and started giving him a blowjob. I did that for quite a while, he seemed to be really enjoying it! Then he fingered me and sucked/nibbled on my nipples! The combination was making me twitch and shake. It was like there were electric currents going through my body from my clit to my nipples. Really good electric currents. Although I didn’t cum, it was still pretty great.

We started having sex on the couch, first missionary, then he sat up and I got on top. The movie was distracting and the couch not very comfy so we went up to my room! We swapped around different positions there too; missionary, cowgirl, doggy style. We were using a condom and I always find I need lube if there’s a condom. We hadn’t had any lube downstairs so it felt better now. He finished and we chatted for a while before going to sleep. I took over an hour to get to sleep. I like cuddling for a bit but I can’t actually go to sleep while spooning and I felt bad moving away. Eventually, I accepted that I had to do it and moved away and he rolled over to his side of the bed. I woke up when he started cuddling me again at about 5 am. I tried to go back to sleep, but couldn’t. I got up and went to the bathroom then came back and started stroking him through his underwear. I felt him start to stir a little so pulled his dick out and got the lube and started giving him a handjob. He leaned over and started making out with me. I’d told him when we chatting online that I’d never really given a handjob before, I usually just stick with head. He was telling me what to do/how he liked it. He started fingering me again. He was on top of me and I started guiding his dick into me. He asked if we should put a condom on and I said if he wanted to but he could just pull out if he’d rather. I hate condoms and usually, I’m on birth control but had just had to come off it because of bad side effects! (I’d told him about that.) He agreed to pull out and omg the sex was better without the condom! No lube needed this time! We did missionary, cowgirl, and doggy again. Swapping it up quite a bit. He told me he was getting close and I said he could cum in my mouth if he wanted! He agreed and said he’d tell me when. He pulled out and I quickly sucked the head of his dick and he came in my mouth. Tasted a little funkier than I’m used to. We chatted some more and then went back to sleep. He asked a few times throughout the hook up if I was okay, which I like. I would be comfortable saying if I wasn’t happy, but some people need to be asked and I thought it was great of him to keep checking in.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? When we woke up in the morning I realized I’d overslept! I offered him a shower then realized there were people in the house and he wasn’t really meant to be there so he had to sneak out! It was kind of awkward, I felt like I was 16! He seemed okay about it. I’m not keen to see him again. We have chatted a little, but I never saw it going anywhere and I’m not going to be having anyone here again after that scare! The whole thing was a little more awkward than I expected.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Boredom, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? One of my close friends. She reacted positively, laughed at me having to sneak him out!

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The aforementioned electric currents!

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Having to sneak him out! Not being on birth control. Then not being able to sleep.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I think maybe I’ll slip not being able to sleep while spooning into the conversation before the hook up happens next time! I feel bad moving away but I really can’t sleep!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I don’t think the chemistry was quite right with us. The sex had high points and definitely wasn’t bad, but something was missing and we were just a lot more awkward that night than on the previous dates.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s key that both people know what the deal is, casual sex can lead to someone getting hurt if you aren’t open about your intentions. I, personally, am definitely well in favor of casual sex. I find it interesting how different cultures have such different views about casual sex!

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? 5 stars!

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